Ex kidnapped our child

[Kusachi]

Ex was going to spend some time with dd before we went on holiday and didn't return her - it's day 5I had no idea he'd do this, because he agreed I could take her. He's been ignoring my calls and messages and I called the police that same evening, but all they could do was welfare check.
These have been 5 days of hell. I've contacted police, ss, hv, CLA, sollicitors, gp and all I hear is that they can't help me and that I should relax because my daughter is with her dad and she is safe. I've now applied for emergency child arrangement order. Anyone with experience of filling c100 and how long it takes for the hearing to take place?
Not knowing when I'll see my child again kills me!

Sorry, no words of advice but just hope you get your child back soon. Every parent's worst nightmare. Your ex is deceitful and underhand, sure you'll get some good advice shortly... how old is your lo?

Notasha, I'm only now realising how dangerous my ex is. My daughter is 6.

You need a solicitor to file an emergency court hearing order. Have you spoken to a solicitor? If he’s had her for 5 days the solicitor should have already filed that. Does she live with you normally?

Does he have parental responsibility?

Happened to a friend, judge tore strips off the Ex, but DD2 ended up with terrible behavioural issues as a result.
Took years to get over it.
Good luck

Do you have a court order in place, OP?
And who is the resident parent, you?
Does dad have parental responsibility?

I've now applied for emergency child arrangement order. Anyone with experience of filling c100 and how long it takes for the hearing to take place?

This answers my first question. Sorry about that. I applied for this years ago and although I can't remember how long it took to get the ball rolling, I remember it all moving along quickly.

I think the problem is that your ex can take your child for up to 28 days without your consent (I could be wrong. It's been a few years since I've been through all of this).

You'll also want to file a PSO (and I believe you'll have to wait for the hearing to do this- ask your solicitor about this. Your ex has proven that your DC is at risk of being kidnapped, so a PSO is entirely appropriate).

This is intensely stressful for you. You must be going out of your mind. Keep us posted.

Thank you for your support Another day without dd
My ex has PR and we were in process of separation so technically still lives with us.
I hope it won't be 28 days! School starts after next week so I'm hoping he's not going to keep her and make her miss it.
It wasn't easy to find legal aid solliciitor and the one I spoke to said they can't help because I don't know his parents' address (where I assume he took her) and it's not likely I'll be successful they said really don't know if I should try another one, I'm not that good at explaining so maybe it's that...
I really hope dd is oblivious to what's going on. I had fantasized about finding out where she's staying and taking her back home but wouldn't want her to witness any scenes.

Its awful he can do this. Surely he cant make her miss school? Do you mean you dont even know where she is? You havent got an address? Have you tried calling 9n the phone?

Sorry, just read back that he's not answering your calls. Have you got friends or family to support you? What a scumbag he is taking a little girl away from her mum with no warning. Is he a good dad in general to her, do you know she'll be safe?

Just to clarify you say the ex has PR? Do you also have this? Was it a 50/50 shared agreement?

Do you have any idea where she is? If you can find her, go and demand her back! He can't just disappear with her like that and cut contact, for no good reason, neither parent should do that. Could you post on social media asking if anyone has anyone seen her/explain her dad never brought her home and it's been days since.

I only know approximately which area it is, but I should probably give up the idea of going there because London is so vast and if I'll come near their house I'm sure they will call the police to remove me.
Ex has PR and there is no arrangement in place because we were still living together.
I was considering posting something on social media but that would make me look crazy. I think that's what he's been telling everybody these past days to justify why he took her away and prevents contact.

If the police did a welfare check someone must have the address of where he is?

I've told a few friends and they've been brilliant, although my family is far away. He's generally a good dad, although I'm wondering whether someone who has been emotionally abusive to their mum can be a good dad.

I hope you get her back soon. That is despicable.

I hope you get her back before school starts again, but if you don't, just wait for her to go to school, then go in and get her. Assuming you both have PR.

Oh op this is horrible

I hope she comes home soon, you must be going out your mind

Thank you, I'm trying not to despair, but it's hard. I still can't believe this is happening, feels like a scary dream.
I really hope he'll bring her back soon or that the court will get back to me asap. In the meantime I'm going to look for a lawyer. I'll notify the school about what's going on as well.

I've now applied for emergency child arrangement order. Anyone with experience of filling c100

Sorry, no legal advice, just wanted to say WELL DONE on taking the initiative of doing this yourself. You will likely find the court sympathetic to your position and much less so towards your ex, given his conduct. The court see this type of father every day of the week and will have the measure of him very quickly.

Every court appearance will give you more strength and confidence in yourself and diminish his power over you.

How are you doing Op? Have you managed to get any contact with him or your daughter

Do you know where he works?
As I would follow him... When he goes home, and find out who has my child in the day ..
I would then go the next day and collect her...
Take pass port and documents, to prove who I am.

The way I see the situation you have described- you & your ex are 'technically still living together and in the process of separation ' so are living together and not separated ?

If this is the case then your partner has taken your child to his mothers. Which he is perfectly entitled to do and needs no ones permission not even yours.

You will struggle to get legal aid.
I would complete a C100 tick the 'ex parte' (in secret urgent hearing) box. If you are low salary/benefits fill in the 'help with fees' form so you don't have to pay £215...and stop telling people you are 'in the process of separating ' but HAVE separated.

Then get yourself into court for a hearing - Monday morning.

@Kusachi any update OP? Really hope she's home with you soon

Thank you for your encouragement, PicsinRed. Can't wait for some justice to be carried out I've been calling and messaging him and his family and friends and not one single person replied. I've been composed and just asked for help - what's wrong with people!
Mummmy - he can work from anywhere unfortunately
Smaller - we definitely have separated, there's no way I can ever share a house with this man after what happened.
Will call the court first thing tomorrow, I didn't tick the "without notice hearing" box, but I really should have.