to ask if I'm doing the right thing?

[Oceanah]

I've posted a few times over the last few weeks. I recently left my abusive ex. We have a small ebf baby together.

He became more and more abusive towards me since I got pregnant. He's angry, mean, controlling financially, aggressive, punches things when he's angry, mean to his young daughter from a previous relationship etc, and since I split from him, he's destroyed my things, changed the locks on the doors to our jointly owned house, threatened to badmouth me to our son, and made threats that things are going to end badly for me. Not sure what that last threat means. He's being so cruel to me, and I don't trust this angry man with my son. His daughter is scared of him too.

This has resulted in me not seeing him at all and him therefore having no contact at all with his DC. Based on the completely true information above, is it reasonable that he's not seen his son at all? Even though he's abusive, cruel, and I don't want to be in a room with him because I'm scared?

Anyone? This is really eating me up to the point of non functioning!

I think I posted on a previous thread, OP. Am I right in thinking SS are involved? You don't have to be in a room with him ever to facilitate contact. If he isn't having contact, he can pursue supervised contact.

It's nothing to do with you if he hasn't sought some way of organising contact through the courts. Don't let him get to you.

What is the current situation?

I'm in a similar situation so understand what you are going through! I was told to not allow contact and for ex to go to court if he wants access - which he has done. Keep your chin up! :)

Thanks @Doyoumind

Current situation is that I'm sick of him sending me horrid messages. He also destroyed a load of my stuff which I'm upset about.

I'm ignoring all contact from him. I need a break. Just keep convincing myself it's not justified and that I should be facilitating contact.

Thanks @Manchestergal87 - sorry you've been through similar. Did the court process take a long time?

If he is harassing you, report it to the police. Tell him to stop texting, block his number, create an email address solely for his use and tell him to use it when he needs to contact you regarding anything relevant. Have you spoken to Women's Aid? X

You keep name changing and posting the same story and getting the same response. Why not update one of your many previous threads?

@Oceanah court process starts next month! I'm dreading it!

@GarthFunkel because I can? It's the internet. I have just come out of an abusive, scary relationship and I can post anonymously under any name I wish. I am still at a point where I need constant validation and mn is helping me significantly. I haven't posted anything mean or offensive and would rather not have a load of threads under the same name.