What does it take?

[PaulaAlquist]

What does it take to make the courts and social services tosee that kids are not in a safe and nurturing environment?

Long story short.. broke up with a toxic ex after 6 years. Controlling end emotional abuse to my self and the children is the reason to blame.

Tried to work with my ex bud was always verbally abused and was always the one to blame when picking up the kids.

Drugs, alcohol, self harming as in head banging and cutting herself and neglect of the children resulted in myself keeping them for 10 days

I was told to return the kids as there was no immediate risk

Since the 12/12/18 there is a giant list of stuff she has done and kids are still there:

Threatened she would be dead when I return kids

Asking for drugs, really desperately and crying saying she needs something.

Admits to drinking bottles of whiskey

Leaving the kids 5,2 and 1 in the house on there own.

Still using cannabis

No electricity when returning the kids.

Letting a new partner do fire tricks on little boys fingers

Letting new partner let my oldest at 5 play GTA

Letting her new partner tell my 5 year old that he is going to get me and hurt me, left him crying and scared.

Talking to the kids like there adults about stuff they don't understand

2 year old went from 17kg to 13kg, she was advised to feed him lots of food by doctor and health visitor, she fed him garlic bread for breakfast. Doctor called social services.

1 year old is left to scream in his cot.. reported this in November and still happening to this very day.

1 year old had serious ear infection, I took him to a&e after a pick up and doctor was really angry said he must go to the gp in 3 days. She cancelled the booked appointment and left 15 month old with a painfully ear infection. Doctor called social services

2 year old had blisters the size of a 50p piece about 3 weeks ago and there still healing today

The list can go on and on..

Why is she allowed to keep the kids for so long.

I'm back in court in 5 weeks, waiting for the outcome of the bar report and social work report.

What if they say no immediate risk again.

I have evidence of everything above she is doing and it's wrong that kids have to sufferr.

Who told you to return the children?

Can I apply for SMP 9 weeks after the birth of my baby?

She basically refused to leave the lawyer's office I had already spoken with and he made a emergency application to the court for me to return then children and the judge granted it because social work said there was no immediate concern.

I had 48 hours to return them or face contempt.. nspcc said if my concerns are real do not return them. I don't want prosecuted.

I got a call from school today again saying my 5 year old has been sick and they can't get a hold of mum. I had to leave work early to pick him up.

He said on the way home from school that mum took out his bedroom light bulb last night for her room and he put his finger in it this morning and got a shock he said he didn't cry but got a fright. Don't know if he would get a shock but he says he did.

Since January he has told me he has smashed 2 light bulbs with the sweeping brush and then now putting his fingers inside the fixture

Hopefully the right decision will be made by the courts.

He would get a shock if the light fitting was turned on.

Please take him to a&e and get this documented. They will call social services again.

Those poor children :(

I hope the court makes the right decision to let them have a safe happy upbringing

I didn't take him to a&e as he fell asleep when we got home. He seems ok today, complaining of a sore head and left eye tho. The school did say other children were ill.

I don't want it to seem like tit for tat either..

I hope so but think social work will mess it up again for them.

This could have been the serious incident were waiting for and they would have been too late.

If a doctor has twice called ss then I presume she's had a lot of involvement with them. Have they asked you to have them full time?
I think the police can remove children immediately but as far as I know ss is a bit more long winded with evidence needed and court cases.
But I'm not a Sw so this may not be accurate.

Do you know when she is leaving them alone? You could call the police then and they would remove them

The doctors called because 2 year old went from 17kg to 13kg. Got evidence as in her voice on recording saying she was giving him garlic bread for breakfast whe shen should have had something more nutritious.

Police have agreed 3 times children are unsafe, placed them on the VPD because of the recordings.

Social services first told me reporting concerns wouldn't look good for myself in court which was wrong for them to say.

This has been going on since beging of December. My oldest boy has went from nearly 4 stone to just over 3 stone, easily lost half a stone because of her neglect.

Don't know what else I can do, it's going to take a fatality before they realise everything I was saying is correct

Have you put everything in writing OP?
I would be documenting everything and copying to GP, SS, police, lawyer, NSPCC.

Threatened she would be dead when I return kids - Have you shown this to SS?

Asking for drugs, really desperately and crying saying she needs something. again, is this documented?

Admits to drinking bottles of whiskey as Above

Leaving the kids 5,2 and 1 in the house on there own. how do you know this? if you know it is happening phone the police when it occurs

Still using cannabis proof?

No electricity when returning the kids.

Letting a new partner do fire tricks on little boys fingers if he has marks, take him to GP or A&E. You need to document this

Letting new partner let my oldest at 5 play GTA

Letting her new partner tell my 5 year old that he is going to get me and hurt me, left him crying and scared.

Talking to the kids like there adults about stuff they don't understand

2 year old went from 17kg to 13kg, she was advised to feed him lots of food by doctor and health visitor, she fed him garlic bread for breakfast. Doctor called social services.

1 year old is left to scream in his cot.. reported this in November and still happening to this very day.

1 year old had serious ear infection, I took him to a&e after a pick up and doctor was really angry said he must go to the gp in 3 days. She cancelled the booked appointment and left 15 month old with a painfully ear infection. Doctor called social services

2 year old had blisters the size of a 50p piece about 3 weeks ago and there still healing today

if you have proof of all of the above then have you applied for full custody? Have you got a shit hot family solicitor?

I have proof of it all. Her reason to ss for not taking my one year old to his book go appointment was because I said I was taking him but didn't show up. She sent very aggressive messages saying she was taking him and I said I will meet her there. She cancelled the appointment at 08:30am the appointment was 10:30.

She has been caught lieing numerous times.

Most recent was the kids getting a electric shock, she told social this happened two weeks ago yet my oldest is 100% sure it happened on Friday, his words were 'the day you picked me up from school's which was Friday. He also said Infront of my parents that his mum told him to say he didn't get electrocuted, why is she trying to trick my brain when I know that I did.

She is a evil and sick person.

Oldest stayed at my house last night and said he doesn't have scary dreams here because gogorina isn't here, gogorina is a scary Halloween mask that they are really scared from. He said mum's new partner chases them around the house with it. Didn't believe him at first because he said my 2 year old just cries, this would be child abuse. Then he said did you know you can smoke through the mask, the new partner does this.

This was right as we lay in bed going to sleep after watching a movie, just as we were going to sleep he said he doesn't like akitas.. I asked why and he said because mum's new partners dog bit my 2yr old in the face yesterday!! Mum put tee.. tee.. I finished with saying TCP and he said yeah the brown bottle. She put TCP on his face so I don't know what to expect today

I cried myself to sleep last night..

IV not seen my 2 year old from Sunday after returning a verry happy little boy who didn't want to go home in the first place..

I'm meeting mum at the hospital today at 13:30 for my 2 year olds very first pediatrician appointment for unexplained weight loss. If he has any dog bites on his face I will not let her leave with him or my oldest and I will call the police and social services to come to the hospital. They will not be returning back to a house that is unsafe and there not returning back to there mother to be hurt any more.

My lawyer is shit..

Nspcc has told me the next time you have the boys do not return them. Call the police and social services ask them to come to your home and show them everything you have shown us and they will agree not to return them.

My lawyer says do not do that it will be contempt.

I have a recording of my 5 year old crying saying this man is going to get me and hurt me and he was scared and crying. Mum told me last night that this man apologised to him afterwards. Sickos

Change your lawyer. Can you get recommendation from anyone?
Also I might be tempted to ask SS , in writing, for clarification why you should not report your evidenced concerns and why they say it will go against you in Court..

The lawyer I have wants full residence for myself. I have spoken with the bar reporter which was requested at the last hearing and the very same day she called giving me abuse then on the following day my oldest told me he was left crying. I had the evidence and sent it to my lawyer and they said they will ask the bar reporter to come back out, they haven't come out yet and they asked for another 5 weeks to check ex partners medical records and for social work to finish there report for children's reporter.

There is no immediate risk so kids are to stay there for another 5 weeks untill investigations are done.

The social worker that was assigned to the case apologised and said that was said by duty workers who seen it as thow I was making false accusations yet I told them I had evidence. They refused to read any messages or listen to the recordings.

Social work are a disgrace but I understand it's because I am going to court for residence they can only try and help the situation.. if they were aware of what they know right now the kids would probably be on care if I wasn't fighting for them.

I have my next hearing on 10/05 and I hope that all reports are finished and the kids are with me.

My two year old had small grazes on his face and told me the bad dog bit him today at his appointment. They weren't bad at all but still risky to have such a big dog so soon around strange kids in a sense

What did mum say about the dog bite?
That sounds so disturbing.

You can't say anything without her either denying it ever happened and say the kids are lieing or she makes up an excuse.

How are things going Op? Hope the DC are ok

Op please give us an update when you can. I’m praying those babies are rescued