Access rights

[TwinkleMerrick]

Advice needed, pls no judgment. Ex left me over Xmas, found out this weekend he has OW. Up until now I have been allowing him to see DD (9 months) at my house as he has a drug problem. He doesn't own a car seat, a crib or anything baby related so allowed him into my home for a couple of hours a week. But I'm very hurt with the news of OW and can't face seeing him. I've cut contact until I get my head sorted. I don't want to stop him seeing her, but don't want him to be alone with her or have her over night. Anyone been in this situation? Anyone got any advice? Thanks x

I'm sorry your in this position.

I haven't been in this situation but the idea that comes to mind is can you have anyone supervise him in your home for those few hours.

If he wants anything more then that I would step back and let him go to court for more access. Start building up you paperwork detailing his drug use and interactions with your child.

Check here to see if a contact centre can help

naccc.org.uk

A contact centre might be an option but take legal advice as he should not be left alone if he has a drug problem

Thanks guys, I'm going to wait for him to get in touch. I had to chase him constantly to confirm when he wanted to see her. Also my mum has agreed to take over contacting him so I don't have to speak to him. I'm thinking my mum can meet him in a public/neutral place for an hour or so. Then perhaps organise a contact centre if he can not agree with this. I start a new job in September, part atm. So when I have the extra income I will see a solicitor. Great advice thanks xx