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Parental rights

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Jadejessicah · 20/02/2019 20:02

Hello , me and my ex split up at the beginning of January, we have come to the agreement that he would have our 15 month old son on a Sunday until Monday afternoon and then one night in the week for tea.

His mum is one of the reasons we split as she used to get in the way of our relationship and parenting all the time.

My ex came to me last week and said that his mum wanted him one day this week because she was off work , baring in mind he lives with his parents and they see him the same days my ex does and goes out with them when they go out for the day.

Am I wrong in saying I didn't want her to as I don't want to give my time up when he could let her take him out on one of his days. Because he's kicked off at me saying I'm being horrible and selfish and then even saying he wasn't going to let me get my son a passport if I was not going to let his mum have him ????

He's also said that they have grandparent rights and if we was to go to court over it he would get him more days than he does and his mum and dad would be able to get to a right to him ?

It's really getting to me and I'm getting worried that he might not bring him back to me if I don't let him do what he wants , I'm so anxious to hand him over now

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InsomniaTho · 20/02/2019 20:03

Nah he’s talking shit. Parents have responsibilities not rights, and Grandparents have zero anything.

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Jadejessicah · 20/02/2019 20:09

He has also now turned round and said when he goes on holiday next month my son will still be going and stopping at his parents because that's still his days , is that allowed ?????

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ILoveMaxiBondi · 20/02/2019 20:10

there is no such thing as grandparents rights. If the father has contact and his contact takes place at the grandparents house where he lives they would be laughed out of their solicitors office.
he can’t reasonably withhold consent for a passport. If he does you see a solicitor, take it to court and the judge will order that a passport can be issued without his consent.

prh47bridge · 20/02/2019 20:18

He has also now turned round and said when he goes on holiday next month my son will still be going and stopping at his parents because that's still his days , is that allowed

It sounds like there is no court order so it is entirely up to you.

Wellit · 20/02/2019 20:25

Why do I hear this so often!!! It rages me! My ex tried all this rubbish about grandparents rights as well - it's a load of waffle!! Normally you can get a few free minutes with a solicitor over the phone so you can confirm that as fact if you like. Scare mongering to bully a mother to go with the wishes of the father really grinds my gears. If he has put these threats in writing to you then keep them if anything ever does go to court, use his own bullying words against him, serves him right for being a prat!

DaisysStew · 20/02/2019 20:28

It’s for him to facilitate contact with his family during his contact time - what would his reaction be if you demanded that he let your son spend time with your parents on his day?

Mummaaon · 26/02/2019 20:03

I'm in a similar situation, I have a 9 month old baby boy, my ex is taking me to court as he wants him three nights a week which I feel is too much at this age - anyway this week I get a letter via lawyers from his parents seeking access which I've never denied them seeing the baby song threatening to take me to court!!!!! What the hell!! I feel
It's a power freak thing as they can see baby during father's time or simply call me to visit at home! Baby isn't an object

BubblesBuddy · 27/02/2019 08:41

Grandparents don’t have rights. However you need to see a family solicitor and get a reply sent. I would also go to court to get a formal arrangement made with your ex. The grandparents won’t be involved in that.

Collaborate · 27/02/2019 08:57

However you need to see a family solicitor and get a reply sent.

No you don't. Save your money for now. Carry on with the arrangement you have and only go to a solicitor if you receive court papers or hear from a mediation service.

What does strike me though is that a little flexibility may help here. Whilst I can understand that you don't want to get in to a regular arrangement when the grandparents build up their expectations, would it hurt to agree this as a one-off?

ABadlyShavedYeti · 08/03/2019 06:54

But it wouldn’t be one day this week and that’s it, it would escalate. And by letting MIL have the child one day a week every day - and that’s what it would turn into, they are just testing the waters and if op agrees they will demand it every week - you setting a precedent of regular child care and a bond that could go in their favour if they took you to court for grandparents rights.

To get “grandparents access” they have to prove a strong bond with the child, a regular routine with access and how it benefits the child.

Be careful OP.

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