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Contact Center/Supervised Contact Alternatives?

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Jendiii91 · 11/02/2019 15:52

Hi All!

I would like some ideas/advice on how/where to arrange a safe contact for my son (age 2) to spend some time with his father.
There was some DV in our marriage so my ex had been seeing his son at a contact center around once a month for an hour which was fully supervised. Once the restraining order expired he emailed me and we all agreed for him to have the sessions at my parents house where me and a family member could supervise him to ensure my sons safety.

He brings his Mom to all the sessions and lets her do all the interacting, he has never really bonded and won't make the effort. We exchange emails to arrange these and I have mentioned to him that it would be beneficial for him to interact more and try to converse a little. He tends to just issue commands and generally treats him like hes still a baby.

My parents don't want me using their home for this anymore since they're really not comfortable with it and my ex has also complained about it.

I'm just not sure where to go from here, he's threatening to take me to court because he wants unsupervised contact. I'm not comfortable with this and don't feel that my son would be safe with him for several reasons. He has a temper and will start throwing things, shouting and being violent to whoever/whatever is in proximity to him. He has also threatened to take him away or said he will lock himself in the house with him so I really don't want to have to hand him over for unsupervised contact. Just looking for a safe alternative to a contact center.

Any suggestions are welcome Smile

OP posts:
MissMalice · 11/02/2019 16:24

Why wouldn’t you use an actual contact centre?

AngelaStorm73 · 11/02/2019 16:41

I think if his behaviour has still not improved then it should go back to court.
I would fight every way I could to not have a violent man around my DCs, and would want it in a contact centre if I had no choice. I would not be making my family vulnerable.

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