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Ex is lying about his address making mediation and divorce difficult...help please?

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Klfkkb6 · 08/02/2019 01:45

Hi all, I'm looking for some general advice if possible please. Me and my ex split in April last year and I filed for divorce in June. So far he has ignored two sets of papers that have been sent to him from the courts and now I am having to change my grounds just to be able to move forward. We have 6 children (the eldest being my daughter from a previous relationship) and so far we have managed to arrange visitation and such without too many arguments. The situation has now come to a point where due to his behaviour and threats of legal action I have now arranged for mediation to begin. My issue is I have given the address I know him to be living at to the mediation team so they can send him a letter about it and he is now stating he doesn't live there. He does have a flat in his name but has never spent a single night there, he moved in with his girlfriend and her daughter. This is where I drop the children off for his fortnightly weekend visits and also where I collect them from. What can I do if he pretends not to have received the letter and continues to deny living there? All he is doing is slowing down this process and making things harder. Is there a way I can prove he is living there? Do I have to send the letter to his flat? This is also the same for the amended divorce petition. I'm stuck on what to do? Any help would be greatly appreciated :)

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everydaymum · 08/02/2019 02:12

Could you have it sent to his work?

Klfkkb6 · 08/02/2019 02:49

No, unfortunately. He doesn't work and hasn't done for most of the years I have known him

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MooseBeTimeForSnow · 08/02/2019 03:28

You can apply to the court for deemed service.

As for mediation, if he doesn’t respond they’ll sign it off.

You could always consider instructing a process server to go to that house straight after you drop the kids off.

Lonecatwithkitten · 08/02/2019 08:48

I don't have solutions only sympathy.
My Ex was similar, living between several addresses, not responding to anything till it suited him.
Mediation I attend two initial appointments he never responded and in the end it was signed off as unsuitable. It took 5 years to get divorced, but was worth it in the end.

Xenia · 08/02/2019 09:41

I would send it to his girlfriend's and to the address he does not live at once you get your own copy from the mediator and by signed for delivery and also email and text it to him and keep screen shots so it will be hard for him to say he did not receive it.

Klfkkb6 · 08/02/2019 13:17

Thanks everyone. I have sent it to both addresses but he is now giving me abuse over the phone and text. I have had screen shot every conversation we've had anyway due to the games he plays...thabsk for the advice all

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MooseBeTimeForSnow · 08/02/2019 14:24

If you have abusive messages from him which confirm he’s received it, apply for deemed service. Use a D11 and attach screenshots to the application.
www.gov.uk/government/publications/form-d11-application-notice

Klfkkb6 · 08/02/2019 21:53

I didn't think of that.. thank you!

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RandomMess · 08/02/2019 21:55

If you need the divorce papers serving arrange to do it when you drop the DC off/pick them up?

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