Nrp getting Child christened without telling RP.

[JaffacakesAreCakesNotBiscuits]

Nc for this.

My best mate has just called and she's is upset. Basically her and her ex have a CAO in place. Dcs live with her go to their dads EOW. has been for a while.

Turns out last weekend he had got the dcs christened.. She was not aware of this. It was something they spoke of when they were together. But never happened.
Dcs are 4 and 6..
He never told the dcs until the weekend they went to him. So there was no way of knowing.

Is this even legal / possible. Or is it just one of those things that nothing can be done..
He also got the eldest ear pierced last Yr without consulting her.

He is on the birth certificates has PR. Etc.

It is a shitty thing to do. I would be really hurt and upset too.

If the kids are willing, I don't know how old they are, I would ask her local priest to do a blessing ceremony and she can choose godparents and have a big family party all of her choosing.

I wouldn't argue with her ex about it, that just gives him power and the knowledge that she is upset.

But it's a really crap thing to do.

My ex did both the baptism and the ear-piercing without telling me. Honestly, the best advice for your friend is not to allow it to hurt her - if her ex is like me, it will just make him gleeful that he's scored a point. She has plenty of opportunity for her own special occasions with the dc.

If her ex is like mine, not like me!