I recently moved and agreed with my ex to drop the children at arranged meeting point of half way, as he wont collect them. Recently, he's again declared a ridoculous amount of £100 a week (less than last year) so only pays £25 (even less than before) for two children, even though he tells me he spends £400 on a weekend with them,buys designer clothes for himself, has 2-4 luxury holidays a year, drive's fast expensive cars, and clearly lives above his means, but wont pay more for his children, so its got my back up that I'm using credit cards to fund travel expenses to get the children to him on his weekend's , as well as the whole cost of the children when i cant afford it at the moment and he pays peanuts . Two weekends ago, my youngest didn't want to go to his dad, which often happens with him. He has ADHD and terrible anxiety, which his dad doesn't understand or acknowledge. He especially gets anxious about going to his dad, which he's told teacher's and act's up a lot when he's due to go. This caused an argument between the father and me, even though i tried to encourage my son to go without upsetting or unsettling him , the father felt i did nothing (he didnt hear the conversation said with my son). A result of this, was continuous abusive messages for most of the day, threats, insults and wishing my car blows up, so I refused to drop my eldest as my ex causes me anxiety due to the history of violence he inflicted on me. I also feel he is taking liabilities with paying so little and barely taking responsability for the children as it is and expecting me to do everything with little support.
This weekend i refused to take them as i am not working due to losing my job a week before christmas and really can't afford the travel at the moment, especially with another cut of maintenance from him, so clearly said he can pick them up if he wishes to see them. He has now me told me hes taking me to court (has money for that) for a judge to decide who picks or drops children off. May i add, i suggested to change weekends as a solution (my partner and i currently have all the kids together and the other weekend we have no kids) so the weekend my partner has his girls he offered to drop boys as its on the way to collect his kids.
My ex said "no" as it makes it easy for us which he doesnt want!?!? So hes admitting he wants to make my life difficult.
Where would this even stand in court? He'd look pretty silly when I've found a solution to what he wants but is refusing it, just to be difficult. I'm also pregnant and have medical issues so wont be driving long distances when heavily pregnant and once I've given birth for the first couple of months. Would this be taken into consideration, as a tempary measure, if there was a court order in place, that i have to drop the children and would they consider the fact that I'm not working? Who's responsability is it and what do I do?
Thanks