I have been separated from my husband for almost 2 years, after less than 2 years of marriage. Prior to that we lived together in my home for 3 months. He has his own house which he is selling to fund the purchase of another.
We reconciled for a short period on the understand he would seek treatment for his behaviour issues but I later discovered he was just stringing me along and instead had embarked on a number of extra marital relationships. That was a year ago.
Now I have had time to understand why things went so wrong, I am convinced I was in a narcissistic relationship and didn't even know it.
The bottom line is, I am scared to start divorce proceedings because I don't want him or our relationship to feature in my life. I can't bear the thought of stomach-churning conversations or hiding my car up the road in case he sees my communication with him as an open invitation to drop by. He will veer from overwhelmingly nice to unbelievably cruel in one conversation and will no doubt try to manipulate the situation to his own advantage.
What I want is get a divorce, to agree there are no financial ties between us and to have it over and done with very quickly.
Can he drag it out? Or make it difficult for me? I have my own home which he partly lived in for 2 years and paid £400 a month towards food and bills for 8 months of that 2 years.
He has his own home which he rents plus owns a 75% share in another property which he has up for sale.
What's the easiest way for me to proceed with the least hassle and least possibility I will have to speak to him?
Thank you.