Being an executor of a will you're disinherited from

[golondrina]

Hi,

I am estranged from my mother. I have heard from my brother (who I'm on good terms with) that she has made a will where she leaves 50% to him and 25% to each of my two children (her grandchildren).
She has "not named me as an heir". But she has made me an executor, along with my brother.

She's not likely to die any time soon, but I don't really know what this means. Apart from I think being just vindictive, what does it actually mean for me? What will I have to do? Is it to force me to hear the contents of the will and learn I've been disinherited (she doesn't know my brother has told me) or some other reason. Is it normal to do this? Why would you do this, other than as a bit of a mindfuck?

Her estate won't be massive or anthing, but there will be a mortgage free property to be sorted out and some savings. Would I need to help apply for probate and so on, or is that only where there's no will? I had to apply for probate when my dad died as they'd divorced years earlier, but then he didn't have a will.

Thanks for any advice. I don't care about the money at all, I'm just wondering if there's a reason (beyond pissing me off) why she's done this?

My will names my sister and my goddaughter to inherit equally and my goddaughters father as executor.

I didn't disinherit him he just isn't going to get anything.

Maybe she did it so that you could be there to look out for your children’s interests?

cd and race, that's not the situation here.

You seem to have already made your mind up, OP!

There is no reading of the will - that only happens in films!

It is usual to have more than one executor named in case something happens to one of them. You can renounce in writing if you don't want to do it.

Possibly the solicitor who wrote the will advised her to have both of her children as executors - does your brother have any children, OP?

No, my brother doesn't have any children. I've pretty much made up my mind because I know what she's like. Having two executors I understand, but the fact that she's made me one when we haven't spoken for 4 years and are unliekly to speak again, based on what I know of her, IS designed to kind of "rub my nose in it"...Kind of "look what you would have received but now you won't". She could have chosen someone else to be the second executor, like my cousin for instance, or just had my brother.
It's not the money, it's the message it's designed to send. If you don't get that because you have nice, normal parents, then I'm really pleased for you.
I know people hate the narcissist label on here, and I'm not a psychologist so not diagnosing anyone, but this is basically my mother. She has done EVERY SINGLE THING mentioned in it. Hence why, based on previous experience I can be pretty confident she has done this to piss me off.