Just reading a thread about a mum wanting to move away from ex and it got me thinking...
Me and my exh split when DS was 2.5.
I initially encouraged nagged exh to have contact but after the first 6 months when I basically had to force him to see DS, I didn't bother. I told him st the time that he needed to organise when he was having DS and that I would facilitate regular contact.
Exh hasn't seen DS since his 3rd birthday. He took him out for the afternoon that day then never asked again.
Over the years, he has sent 2 birthday cards (out of 4 opportunites), 2 anonymous Christmas presents (out of 4 opportunities), has no contact with DS (and very limited contact with his own DD who is 20), makes no effort with the school (which I chose as we've had minimal contact and he fundamentally disagreed with private school despite it being best for my DS) and wrote 3 cards to DS over a 6 month period when I suggested letter contact to attempt rebuild relations when DS turned 4 and could read.....then stopped. This was after he text me one morning out of the blue because he'd had a dream about our DS.
He pays £100/month maintenance despite this being way below the CSA suggestion and less than half what he paid for his DD. He refused to increase this when requested when DS was 4 when he wrote the cards.
I have all the text messages he sent me including lots saying he doesn't care about either of us and is happy to not be in his child's life.
I've found out he's now moved abroad for 6 months with a view to staying permanently.
At what point can I stop worrying about PR?!