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Teenager & shared residency

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ILoveEngland · 04/12/2018 14:22

Hello all

Just wondering how people have reacted to the other parent asking to change the residency order, and if you’ve successfully argued n
For no change.

Our daughter, 13.5, has had the same system for 5.5 years, mostly with me, at her dad’s every Thursday night and all weekend every two weeks. So far, so good.

Long story short he’s asking the court to change it. No notice, just bang! A huge dossier from his solicitor abd now he blanks me.

My daughter does not want it. I would absolutely agree to do it if it’s what she wants because I want her to be happy. His girlfriend just had a baby and he’s arguing the half-sisters should not be separated. Sorry but why recognize the first child only on the birth of a second one? Why should our daughter’s routine have to change? He’s arguing his girlfriend is like a ‘mother figure’ and has provided photos of them all ‘having fun’.

Trying to stay calm but it is all very upsetting.

My daughter will have an audience with someone appointed by the court in the new year, but in reality, are there any positive stories out there where the residency arrangement has not been Changed?

I do not block her access in any way to her father or half sister - I even encouraged her to get on with his girlfriend 😫

Thank you

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MissMalice · 04/12/2018 14:31

At 13.5 her opinion will hold significant weight. I wouldn’t worry too much.

ghostsandghoulies · 04/12/2018 14:43

I wouldn't worry. Nobody will force a teen to have contact. Do you think he's doing it for the new baby's sake or to avoid maintenance?

ILoveEngland · 04/12/2018 14:57

He’s suggesting reduced maintenance but I couldn’t give a toss about money, he earns more than double what I do.

I think I’ve been more upset that he didn’t try to discuss it with me first. Our daughter wants to live in the uk (we are in France) which also complicates matters. I think he’s using the baby to keep her here. she had tried several times to talk to him, he just says he doesnt agree with her point of view.

In three years from now he won’t be able to control her! i just want a happy, healthy child.

I guess I’ll just have to have faith that shecan justify her own position to the court. she serms very determined tho!

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