I'm hoping someone can advise me on access. My ex and I separated 6yrs ago. I have two children 11and 9 yrs old.
Brief outline to how we ended up here.
I left family home due to dv and violence towards eldest child.
After a year or so apart ex partner went abroad initially for 3 months. He married and due to visa issues was absent for 12months. I facilitated contact between children and his parents. They went eow.
Fast forward to him returning, married and with another child. He expected to have the children eow. No build up or time for children to get to know new wife and baby and stopping the arangement we had with his parents. During the year away there was no birthday cards, sporadic Skype calls often weeks without.
My eldest has adhd/ASD and routine is very important to him. So I felt a gradual reintroduction was in the childrens best interest. They were 5&7.
Ex partner wouldn't accept a slow and steady change and pushed for a court order.
We have a court order but he has pushed the boundaries so much that I'm wondering whether there is anything I can do now. Children are due home at 5.30pm, he returns at 9pm. Wants additional days, will not be flexible towards me but expects me to accommodate his every whim.
He has decided he wants the children every Tuesday, the order states every other Thursday, I've allowed the Tuesday but he is now keeping them longer and longer.
In the last 10 weeks he has taken between 60-65 hours of my time with them.
The court order has some recitals which he has always failed to comply with. All I want is my children to see their father, but him understand he has to help with homework, support our son with his football, and bring them home on time.
Does anyone have any knowledge on what I can do. I just want the best for the children, I do not want them stuck between us both. I want them to have the best education they can have and being so tired is not fair on them. I want them to feel supported in their hobbies.