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bananamuncher · 09/11/2018 16:27

I left Ireland an abusive partner under hideous circumstances (had to be rescued in the middle of the night after he threatened to rape me and trapped me in two rooms) a few months ago to return to the U.K permanently with my child, I had full permission from my ex (separated, still married) at the time. Ex is now claiming he never agreed to this, and is threatening me with god knows what if I don't return to Ireland with my child. I know I have the defence of both abuse and permission in terms of the Hague convention, but this is really shaking me, I'm really depressed and anxious, he is relentless in his need to cause me pain and doesn't care about much else. To top it off I've just found out I'm pregnant with my new partner's child, it's the worst possible timing imaginable, but the father wants us to have the child and is really happy about the pregnancy, and I don't particularly want an abortion either. It's like everywhere I turn there is trauma and drama and I just want peace and safety for me and my child. I feel like my right to safety and security are irrelevant, I will always put my child first but my ex seems hell bent on destroying me in any way he can. I have no idea what to do, I don't have the money or the energy for a court battle, and I'm in legal limbo in terms of jurisdiction.

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sameshitnewday999 · 09/11/2018 16:31

I'm really sorry I don't have much advice but bumping so someone else can help. Well done on leaving that absusive asshole xxxxx

Collaborate · 09/11/2018 17:51

Do you have evidence of the permission, and was it clear he was giving consent to a permanent removal?

bananamuncher · 09/11/2018 18:46

It was a verbal agreement that he's now denying. The thing is all his messages show he's aware and ok with us being here, I have videos of him drunk and abusive, I need to check what actual evidence I have

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