Court tomorrow - any advice

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I'm in court tomorrow. I'm utterly terrified.

Any advice anyone has would be really helpful.

Is it worth mentioning ex's patterns of control, the fact that he's reduced £140 from his monthly contribution in spite of getting a 3k pay rise, that he's stopped contact on Fridays when I have after work meetings knowing the impact of this? He's engaged in really coercive techniques against the welfare of DS when he's not got his own way, and I think perhaps it is relevant to court proceedings.

You won't get any helpful advice unless you give more information. What is the court case about? Is he taking you to court or are you taking him?

Is the hearing about the children or about finances?

He's taking me to court over arrangements for DS aged two.

I feel like I've tried for months to bridge our positions and offer some compromises to keep things out of court, all the whole he's acted really perniciously towards DS and I because I haven't done exactly what he's wanted when he demanded.

I'm at breaking point financially, exhausted with his control and narcissism and dreading seeing him tomorrow in court

It isn't worth saying anything him reducing his contribution. The courts take the view that maintenance and contact are separate issues.

If he is applying for contact, it may be worth mentioning that he has stopped contact on Fridays but it depends on why he did so.

Do you have a solicitor? If so, you should be guided by them.