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Police have rang and asked for a chat - am I obliged?

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ashleyanne2016 · 23/10/2018 22:01

Hi all would really appreciate some advice having no experience with the police previously. Stupidly I allowed someone to stay in my home as they were struggling with somewhere to live, on their own, no money got a big long sob story - they were 19 felt sorry for him. They lived in the same building but told me they had to leave as they were afraid of the guy they were sharing with. Anyway after 3 weeks of him being a menace in my home I asked him to leave. He did eventually but left some of their belongings they then asked could they get them back said no problem - all very cordial but they couldn't come until the next day as I was out all day/night and the door would be double locked. They still had the top door key which apparently they were to give back when they collected their stuff. He asked could he come and collect his stuff while I was out I said no you don't have my permission. I said if you are really desperate I can leave your items in the communal hall I never got an answer. Anyway I arrived home later that day being really ill after eating some dodgy food went to bed and woke up to hear people at my front door. Opened the door and 3 people were outside - him, his friend and a locksmith, apparently he told the locksmith it was his home and he was locked out. After some drama and the neighbours getting involved he got all his stuff but I wouldn't allow him into the house. The next day I found texts on my phone from before he attempted to break in - saying that he was calling the police on me and making a formal compliant and he knew I was in as he saw a light on. I then got a call from my landlord that he rang them screaming and shouting down the phone that he wanted a key and his stuff, they refused said he was just a guest and had no licence to even be on the premises. I rang 101 the next day and lodged a compliant against him they took the details but said it was a civil matter and to seek legal advice. I got my solicitor to fire off a letter sent to his home address and his email address basically just outlining what he did and telling him to stay away. Anyway to cut a long story short I've since heard he told the guy he was sharing with he would accuse him of trying to "r**e" him if he didn't let him off with the rent, he stole a key so that he could go in and out of his apartment when he wasn't there apparently to collect post, he did drugs in my home, left my house in a complete state and sent an email to my landlord saying that he gave me money for rent which would break the terms of my lease and I wouldn't get my deposit back - obviously untrue. I've just split up with my partner and am 4 months pregnant, I'm at a loss what to do and only have one friend here. I'm also suffering from PTSD/anxiety due to my brother's suicide. I'm planning on leaving the UK in the next few months anyway to have my baby at home. I would be very grateful for any help. Every day I have regretted letting him stay I know I was stupid and naïve but I'm a kind person but he obviously saw that kindness and used it as weakness against me. Many thanks Xxx

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Ariela · 23/10/2018 22:22

I'd imagine the police just want to hear your version of events from you.
So tell them everything and let them see copies of the solicitors letter.

I'm sure it'll be fine, and he'll go and find someone else to harrass.

BubblesBuddy · 25/10/2018 23:29

Just say exactly what happened. Your kindness has been abused. Good luck.

donajimena · 26/10/2018 06:56

You must talk to them. Its for your own safety. He sounds quite threatening.

Talia99 · 26/10/2018 09:56

Have they asked you to come in to be interviewed? If so, do not talk to them without a solicitor. It may be he has made some sort of allegation against you in which case if you are being spoken to about a criminal offence, you are entitled to free representation.

Sometime ‘a chat’ means just that, sometimes it turns into a formal interview.

Didiusfalco · 26/10/2018 10:01

He sounds awful - I think you should talk to the police. I really don’t think you have anything to worry about by doing so.

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