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When mediation fails

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Namechangedforthispostonly · 15/10/2018 20:35

Help please ( have name changed to prevent potentially being outed by linking previous threads)

My DC dad is a reluctant parent. I stopped contact over the summer due to continually changing arrangements.

The old arrangement for the last 6 years or so has been every other Sunday for 6 hours. Out of 26 Sunday's he would ask to change around 8 of them. Usually I have been flexible but this year I refused because it does not work in reverse ( i.e he would not pick up additional time if I needed a change)

Long boring horrid back story

We are now going for mediation - I want him to pick up the slack and asked that he does every other weekend and half the school holidays.

He has countered with one weekend a month one Sunday a month and 10- 15 days of the school holidays in total.

I am not happy to accept this- my DC needs more time with her dad and I need a break ( both MH and Long term chronic illness)

If we go to court- what happens next? I know court cant force him to spend more time with DC but do i have to accept inadequate offer as it's better than nothing?

Super confused as to what the best thing to do here.

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SD1978 · 15/10/2018 20:40

Pretty much yes, you either accept this or nothing. As you said/ you can't force him to parent. If that's all he's willing to do, then even an order stipulating more contact won't matter, it will be ignored. Save your money and accept it. Anyone else you can ask to have your child once a month to help out?

Namechangedforthispostonly · 15/10/2018 20:56

Thank you

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