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Seperated 6 weeks ago from a gambling addict

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Shelle82 · 02/10/2018 20:38

Hi. I seperated from my partner of 9 years six weeks ago, we have a 4 year old son.
12 months ago he confessed to being a gambling addict, he is in a substantial amount of debt and attends GA weekly. However since that moment our relationship has deteriorated as he is a very different person now and I feel I constantly walk on eggshells around him as he is so very moody and shouts a lot, including at our son as he loses his temper quickly.
We have a rented house however all household bills and rent go out of my account and he is not on the rental agreement. He was served his notice 4 weeks ago so currently unemployed. I have moved with my son to stay with my parents as we cannot all live under the same roof, it is not a happy environment for my son, however my ex keeps stating in the eyes of the Law I have abandoned the home? Once he moves out then we will move back in so I haven't moved out just staying elsewhere. He is also adamant that he wants 50% custody in future although for now he has agreed alternate weekends and my son stays with me during the week. He wants me to pay for all household items as he paid for them, however I have paid for the household so I believe we are equal? He also keeps arguing that I am a party girl who goes out all the time...I go out once a week if I don't have my son!
I'm trying to keep this out of court however I don't know what to do? Anyone been in a similar situation?? I just want a happy stable environment for my son

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whataboutbob · 02/10/2018 22:03

Didn’t want to read and run even though I have no real experience of this situation. It sounds highly stressful, but you are likely to be doing the right thing in separating. Hopefully someone who has knowledge of the law in this situation will be along shortly. Otherwise it might be worth getting some free legal advice at your local citizens advice centre. Good luck.

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