My DS is 6 months old and my ex and I split 2 months ago. He admitted to using cocaine on a night out and I asked him to leave (as well as making social services aware so that they didn't believe me complicit). My son is breastfed and has never spent time away from me. He won't take formula and as he's demand fed I get nothing when I pump. I have also just discovered I am pregnant again (my ex gave it the waffle about getting help etc., spent a night together and bam baby number 2!) At the moment he shows up whenever he feels like it, without notice, stays for 30 minutes, refuses to muck in with anything other than playtime and if something better comes along (like the football) he cuts visits short, all the while moaning because I kicked him out and he doesn't get to be with his son 🙄🙄 I've said he can't have unsupervised access until he passes a drugs test, which he hasn't bothered pursuing (suits me). When he comes over he often insults me by saying it's not that hard to look after a baby, I spend all day sitting on my arse, I'm lucky I don't have to work etc. I find being around him infuriating and stressful. I was wondering what reasonable access would be granted to him, what everyone else's arrangements are and if I'm being unreasonable to not want him to do the equivalent of drive-thru parenting.