Dh owns everything!

[Minoes]

Hi All, I'm new to this site. Please bear with me and excuse me for mine English grammar.

I have been married for almost 6 years and came from another EU country to UK. Mine husband born and bred in here. I am a sahm for 5 years too 2 dc. I'm A bit worry about mine situation. Mine dh works and bought the house. He pays the bills and gives me allowance.
What worries me is that I don't own a bank account, don't know how much the bills are. We were married in religion 6 years ago and 2 years ago we married legally in a register office. I found out a year ago he had an emotional affair. I forgave him but never forget. Now I'm afraid if he decided to leave me, then I don't know what to do. I don't even know how to pay a bill, I have no savings. I want to work but he I can't at the moment. I know I can't leave him as I'm dependent on him and I know he will take the kids. As he is more powerfull. He makes alot of money and can get too lawyers in the country. I feel that I can't go anywhere and if I take mine kids out of uk then I will get in to jail and lose mine dc forever. I know he has alot of investments. I have no family or friends in here. I feel so stupid that I don't even know how a simple bill to pay. Can I get advise on what I can do or how I can get mine self less independent from mine dh in case our marriage doesn't work out.

Thank you for reading mine post

Talk to Women's Aid. They'll have useful advice.

And good luck!

Find out if your name is on the deeds of the property. As his legal wife you would be entitled to half of everything whether it is in your name or not and the fact that you have 2 young children would also be taken into account with regards to child maintenance.

I would advise you to go to a Solicitor and get your situation documented with the date so that should anything go wrong, you have an audit trail to rely on along with a timeline.

@lucyintheparkwithdragons thank you

@legaleagle99 Thank you for your Advise. I once asked him to put mine name on the house aswell as a owner too. He said it isn't possible because he paid for it and not me so they can't put me on it. I did see once a letter that said I was a tenant? Another question is that he said if something happens to us that his sister will take our children when he set up his will but I don't agree with it. Dh said I have no say in it as he gets his will done himself

Did you see a letter with your name on it as a tenant? Have you ever seen mortgage papers for the house? And if your husband died and you were still alive, regardless of his Will, the children would remain with you as you have parental responsibility. Should you die and your husband die then yes his Will would be acted upon. You need to see a Solicitor and draw up your own Will. Also, you can absolutely be added to the deeds of the house regarldess of whether you pay money into it or not.

Yes I seen a letter with something of council and the names on it and on tenant was mine name. It feel a relieve that mine dc can stay with me whatever happens. I'm afraid that if I see a solicitor he will find out. Thank you so much for your advice a really appreciate it

Minoes Firstly, your grammar may not be perfect but your post is easy to understand, I’d be proud if I could communicate so well in a foreign language.

Your husband is deliberately misleading you in order to control you, you need fully to understand your rights, I’m sure that they are much greater than you appear to think.

If I understand your situation correctly, you may not be able to access the money for a visit to see a solicitor so you really need to contact Women’s Aid 0808 2000247, it’s a free number and will not show up on your phone bill, it can be hard to get through, so you may need to persist. They also have drop in centres in some areas, so it may be worth checking if there is one near you.

It may well be that you would be in a better position if you got divorced!

Children are not possessions, so don’t worry, your husband cannot use his will to pass them to his family.

@ramblinerosie thank you for your Advise. I will try and call women's aid tomorrow. Sometimes it feels I'm better off without dh.