Hello I’m looking for advice on my situation please , any help/thoughts will be greatly appreciated. Will try and keep it short and compact as I can
DC is 8mo , DC father refused contact with me / blocked me from contacting him throughout pregnancy / birth etc. At 6wo I managed to contact him and initiated contact between him and DC. After only a handful of meetings some of which he had DC alone , I was advised to withdraw contact by several professionals and seek advice from a lawyer after every handover turned sour due to the fact he was under the influence of drugs. The last contact at around 8Wo was when it came to a head as he turned up at my door under the influence of drugs , being verbally aggressive and I refused to hand over DC. This is when it ended.
Since then it has been lawyers going between them selfs , he asked for a dna to which it has came back positive and he is now asking for contact ( twice a week 4 hours each time ) meaning DC will not get home until 9pm of these nights .
I don’t want to be the mother who denies acces to my child’s father , if this was the case I wouldn’t of bothered to contact him 7 months ago , going through the channels I did .
After everything that has happened and his unruly behaviour and concerning manner while trying to build a relationship with DC before would I be wrong to think this is way to much to begin with?
I have an app with my lawyer tomorrow.
Just want to know what everyone’s thoughts are and what is reasonable considering the circumstances. Iv been so worried for the last 7 months about what will happen and what I have opened up for myself by initiating contact but I know it is in my sons best interests.
Ideally I would be looking for him to be drug free and contact to begin in a contact centre to begin with and once a week or EOW?
Please don’t shoot me if you think this is wrong I am trying my best to be really adult about this and not let any hatred thoughts towards him come in between him seeing his son. But on the other hand of the little he has shown at the beginning , it has just been awful and concerning and no mother in the right mind would feel comfortable handing over a newborn to someone portraying this kind of behaviour surely?
Can somebody please help me!
Also any advice on what a judge would potentially rule if this went to court.
Thanks so much X