Ground rules for supervising contact

[Jamielee444]

My ex has requested that I supervise/ support contact so he can see dc. He won't do contact centre. She won't separate to go to him so this is what he's asked for. I'm not keen on the idea, last time I did it he told court I was the reason the contact didn't go well. There's been some harrassment and months of abuse via email over my dc.
If I agree to supervising the contact I want to set some ground rules to protect myself. What would be reasonable rules to set?

This doesn't sound like a good idea at all. I think the most sensible rule would be that he uses a contact centre.

I speak from bitter personal experience, because in my case trying this ended up with abuse and arguments in front of the children.

Why won't he use a contact centre? And how old is your daughter?

He doesn't like the centre because they provide truthful reports! Also it's quite expensive.
My DD is 2.5

My partner is currently seeing his daughter in a contact centre after a very very acrimonious split. She withheld contact for the last 3.5 years and he has been I court since the beginning of that.

His only option is a contact centre, I know how expensive it is however depending on the reasons for it, it's intended to be a transitory thing with the end goal to be able to move to unsupervised after a pre determined time.

Can you position it as a short term expense?

You can always just decline.

We have already done the contact centre before and we've tried a friend supervising but according to him they have all sides with me and lied on their statements.

Well I think you just need to decline, it wouldn't be positive for you or the children to be in that situation. That's his option, is it a safeguarding issue?

Contact centre was users as a transitionary thing in the first instance. But the contacts did not go well so it moved to a friend supervising. When that didn't go well it went to handovers at the centre. Now they have withdrawn the service.

Coming back to this thread late. What have you decided?

(Please don't say you are going to do this. ... all your updates confirm my view that it is a bad idea)

No I haven't done it. My Solicitor advised against it too. I've asked for indirect contact but that's not gone down well.