So worried about court

[Marlboroandmalbec34]

Ex is a binge drinker and drink driver. I cannot really prove it though. I left as he was abusive and aggressive when drunk and I don’t want my dc living in that environment.
He was never very hands on with the kids but they do love him very much.
Split has

*posted too soon
Split has been v nasty. He is in family home whilst me and dc are in mums spare room 30 miles away, he has told lots of lies and turned friends against me, refused to pay maintenance.
Contact currently is 1 full day every weekend. He wants more and we are in court in 2 weeks. The reasons I have not agreed more is;

1. don’t trust him not to drink night before and either drive dc over limit or fall into hungover sleep early eve whilst caring for them (both have happened in the past)
2. he has threatened before (in drink) to take them from me and told the dc “say bye bye to mummy” “you won’t ever see mummy again” so without court I always worry he won’t return them
3. DC are 3 and 1. Youngest is still bf. he wants 3 nights EOW this feels too long. I asked did he not think baby would be distressed and he answered “she will have to get over it”
4. he has told me he has wrote them both letters explaining everything I have done wrong and when they can read they can make their own minds up. This seems abusive to dc to put baggage on them. I was refused mediation due to domestic violence / police call outs. If it wasn’t for the drinking I think we could agree a parenting plan, the dc adore him and I know he loves them. I want them to have a good relationship but I am so worried. Weekends, Xmas, hols, all the times he wants contact are when he drinks!! I have cafcass call next week. I don’t want to sound vindictive- any advice? I am just so worried I honestly wonder if I should have just stayed with him. I could have protected kids then

Didn't want to read and not post, I'm also leaving an abusive relationship but he's not a drinker & my children are a bit older.

^I honestly wonder if I should have just stayed with him. I could protect kids then.
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No no no, you can't live your life like this! Court will have to take on board what you've said. And the age of children maybe he'll just get supervised access. I'm not in uk so don't know how it works there

There's a Facebook group for single mothers uk & Ireland post there too

Post on relationships/divorce separation boards here too for more traffic

It’s so hard because I don’t want supervised access. I don’t think that’s great for the kids I just want him to be reasonable, not drink when he has them or before hand and to work upto overnights so it’s more gradual ( and to give me time to wean our baby) but there is no reasoning.

Thank you for reply’s, should I request this is moved to divorce?