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CAO broken down

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Jamielee444 · 13/09/2018 07:46

My DD is 2.5 yrs old. So far courts have ordered supervised contact at a contact centre, supervised contact in the local community and handovers at a centre. None of these have been successful. Father will only do what he is ordered to the extreme that I have asked for a photograph of him and he has refused, I have asked for more supervised sessions to support handovers and everything I can think of to support contact and he has dismissed everything.
I think he will take this back to court but I have no idea where we can go from here.
Any suggestions or experience is much appreciated. Thank you.

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5Makes9 · 13/09/2018 08:12

How long has this been going on? What do you want to happen next?

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Jamielee444 · 13/09/2018 08:40

It's been going on for a year. Father wants me to supervised contact but there's been some dv and harrassment so I'm not comfortable. Plus when I did it last time he lied about how it went and blamed me when it didn't go his way

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5Makes9 · 13/09/2018 08:51

And what do you want to happen now? What do you think is best for your child?

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Jamielee444 · 13/09/2018 09:09

I really don't know anymore. I feel like I've tried everything to get father to engage. He's put the application in but has only done the minimal . I feel like he is doing all this to get at me rather than build a relationship with DD

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prh47bridge · 13/09/2018 09:28

You cannot force him to have contact with your daughter. All you can do is make her available for contact at the times set down in the order. Keep a diary. If he persists in not taking up contact you can apply to get the order varied.

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Jamielee444 · 15/09/2018 14:49

Thank you. He won't give me any times, or dates for contact. He wants me to sort it all out. But i don't think it's up to me to decide when he should see his daughter. I've asked him again for a photograph but he's refused

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5Makes9 · 15/09/2018 14:55

I doubt very much the court will care about the photograph.
Rather than seeing it as you deciding when he should see your child, perhaps see it as you being in the best position (knowing her routine) to say which days and times suit her?

Are dates and times not specified in the order?

RandomMess · 15/09/2018 14:57

Not sure what the photograph is about?

Has he attend contact at the contact centre etc?

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Jamielee444 · 15/09/2018 14:58

Yes but there was supposed to be contact centre involvement but they have withdrawn the service because DD wouldn't separate.
I have given him my suggestions of how contact should continue, he's dismissed everything I have said but won't plan an alternative way forward

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Jamielee444 · 15/09/2018 14:59

I asked for a photograph of himself so my DD could have it so that she knows who he is. She's not seen him properly since January

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RandomMess · 15/09/2018 15:03

Leave the ball in his court Thanks

5Makes9 · 15/09/2018 15:28

Was it a very short relationship? Did you not keep any pictures from when you were together to show her when she grows up?

If there has been no consistent contact since January then I too would leave the ball in his court. Poor child.

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