Tracking app on phone

[dbradbury]

My 10 year old daughter lives with me (her dad) following a transfer of residence last year. She does see her mum alternate weekends. My daughter has been given a phone by her mum. I've discovered a location tracking app on the phone. I don't have access to the app as her mum set it up. Whilst I can see it might be useful I'm concerned about the privacy aspect of this. Any thoughts on my next course of action.

Don't you think that it is good that if your DD gets lost or something worse happens, you will be able to use the app to locate her?

I am assuming that DD's Mum did not lose her parental responsibility WHENCE came to live with you.

There have been other threads on similar themes, and feelings are divided. I can see their use, I can also see the privacy issues. Your ex presumably knows where you live, you could leave the phone at home when you go out with your dd if you're not happy about being tracked. (I wouldn't be.)

Delete the app or switch off location services.

Thanks for comments so far. I can access phone but only as my daughter ( daughter has been set up as child on phone with very restricted access. Her mother has "admin" rights to the phone)

I'll probably ask to remove the app as neither I nor my parents who assist with child care have given permission for our location to be tracked.

Or you could just stick the phone in a drawer when your dd is with you, which is what my friend did when her ex gave their ds a smart phone at an age she deemed far too young. She had no idea what security, if any, was on the phone, and couldn't check or add any for the same reason you can't. She wasn't worried about trackers, but simply didn't want the hassle of policing it's use.

factory reset....

Sorry but are you honestly saying that your parents (without PR) have more say over this than her mother (with PR)?

Turn the phone off when she is with you then

Would it stop the app tracking the phone if you put the SIM in a different phone when she’s with you? Or give your daughter a different phone to use when she’s with you and she has her mum’s phone when she’s with her?

Just leave the phone in a drawer, maybe it’s a comfort for her to know your dd is safe. If you don’t need it, dont use it,

OP, it might be really hard for your dsd’s mother to not know where her daughter is when they are apart. It is not just about how you feel.

Sorry but are you honestly saying that your parents (without PR) have more say over this than her mother (with PR)?

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OP has said the SC lives with them. The DC mum, who sees them every other weekend, gave them a phone with a tracker on it.

Could you imagine the uproar if it were a once a fortnight father who did this!

The Dc. Not sc

I would switch the phone off or try and do a factory reset. I would not be happy about this at all. There is no logical explanation of why she would be tracking the child and even less so when she isn't the resident parent. Yes I understand she will be missing her child, however, this does not give her any right to invade privacy like this.

ambostraw I was beginning to think I was on my own thinking the exact same thing.

If you had parental access rights (as well as mum) so you could both track/review usage etc then this would be ok assuming it had all been agreed upfront. However as this set up hasn’t been agreed/done. I would switch it off and put it in a drawer.