I'm involved in a legal dispute at the moment that's been going on for over a year. It's a very complex case and the other side have lawyers that are very aggressive and think nothing of making very personal attacks on me in their letters so it's quite stressful. My solicitors, on the other hand, favour the softly, softly approach. I can see where they are coming from as I'm pretty pragmatic and reasonable myself but, after all this time, it has yielded nothing and has actually led to escalation because the other side think we can be walked on so they think they have the upper hand. We actually have a pretty good case but they've yet to see any of our evidence.
We now have a barrister and I did hope this might lead to progress and a more forceful defence of my interests at last. Instead I find them really not suited to me and I don't know what to do, it's so disappointing. They don't seem to have a proper grasp of the case, they write letters that I know won't help and they are equally non-assertive with the other side although they are pretty assertive with me! I feel I am being annoying if I ask any questions or disagree with strategy even in a mild way.
Any tips on how to deal with them would be gratefully received.