Hi I'm new on here and hoping someone can offer advice... I have 2 issues
First, my ex husband is in prison for over 2 years (probably serve half) for domestic violence- officially 3 charges of abh. Before he was sentenced I said I would support him with wanting access to our children when he's released as long as he didn't go back to the woman and sorted himself out. He is now engaged to her... Social care have said the children can't see him while inside and on release he must have supervised access indefinitely. The kids now want nothing to do with him as they saw a lot of the violence and know that he's chosen to stay with her when they don't want him to. Is there anything I can do to basically cut him out for good? They have also asked to change their surnames to mine, especially my eldest who starts high school next week and doesn't want to be associated with him by name (He was in the local paper for what he did), can I do this without his consent?
Second problem, I'm due to try and buy him out next year but I want to look into having the house
signed over to me in lieu of maintenance, I will be worse off in the long run and he wants his lump sum when he comes out but I think it'll be better all round to not expect anything from him. Any idea how I can go about this?
Sorry for the long post, any advice would be much appreciated x