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Separation when unmarried with joint mortgage and three DCs

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ScabbyBabby · 23/08/2018 15:41

Would really appreciate some legal advice (or experience from someone who has been in this situation) on what is the likely outcome of what happens to the house in this scenario.

My children's father and I have separated and he has moved out (verbal abuse and drug use being the predominant reasons but won't go into that here).

We have three children together, ages 10, 8 and 5 and I am and always have been the primary carer. He works long hours and earns good money and can afford to house himself even after child maintenance has been paid.

I am currently on job seekers allowance and frantically looking for a job because I would ideally like to be able to take the mortgage on, on my own, at some point in the near future.

My ex wants to force the sale of the house which is not in the interests of the children. He did put some equity into the house (as did I) but only about £35000, which he is desperate to have back. he doesn't care about the needs of our children, he appears to want to make my life as difficult as possible despite me being the reason that he has been able to dedicate time to his career over the last 10 years.

Where do I stand? If I'm not in the position to be able to buy him out soon, will the courts force the sale despite me not being in a great position to rehouse me and the children?

Thank you.

OP posts:
ScabbyBabby · 19/10/2018 20:22

Thank you zsazsajuju.
You made me laugh 😆

OP posts:
Avidreader12 · 19/10/2019 08:29

Go to a solicitor for half an hours free consultation then sit down in a calm space and decide what you want the end result to be. Be fair to the other party and tell them this is the position. Anyone with knowledge of courts and solicitors will tell you it is expensive to fight for a house often it is better to sell take the equity how it is split under any agreement deed of trust you have and both of you move on otherwise the only one who wins are the solicitors with big legal bills.

prh47bridge · 19/10/2019 09:18

This thread is over a year old. I expect the OP's situation was resolved long ago.

Kubba11 · 21/10/2019 20:22

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