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Need advice on baby’s dad

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mamabear360xx · 23/08/2018 05:55

Hi everyone , basically I was seeing a guy and got pregnant the first time we did stuff. I’m over the moon about it and the father is telling me he is also happy and is willing to accept responsibility however I feel he is trying to keep it a secret from the world and hasn’t asked me to meet any of his family yet. The baby is due in 2 months time. I tried to explain how I felt and that I thought it would be a good idea to try and see each other a bit more often to try and build up a positive friendship for when the baby comes so we can be the best parents and get along well but he doesn’t care about my feelings and just shuts me down all the time and makes excuses. He thinks he doesn’t need to do that and a text asking how I am every week is fine, but I just want to know more about him before I let him be totally involved with baby. He makes no effort with me at all. He blames me for not wanting him to come to the scans but After we slept together I never heard from him again until I had to contact him telling him about The baby so Obviously I was mad at him and wanted someone supportive there with me at that time as you can get all sorts of news at scans . He also thinks he has a right to be at the birth. What do I do with someone who just doesn’t listen to how I’m feeling about the situation? I want him to be in the baby’s life but I want to know him well enough also.

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prh47bridge · 23/08/2018 07:39

This isn't a legal question. You can't force him to be an active father to your child. Legally the only thing you can do is force him to pay maintenance. Suggest you post this in Relationships.

yellowbeans · 23/08/2018 07:47

You say he's happy and willing to accept responsibility yet everything you've said points to quite the opposite. The time for getting to know him well enough was before you got pregnant and the fact that you were over the moon about it is a bit strange. He can be a father to his child without wanting to know you better.

PilarTernera · 23/08/2018 09:11

He also thinks he has a right to be at the birth.

Nobody has a 'right' to be at a birth. As the mother, it is up to you to decide who you want with you. If you have any concerns, speak to your midwife.

anon138 · 23/08/2018 09:31

He doesn't have to be involved if he doesn't want to be. The only thing you'll be legally entitled to is money, he does not have to bring the child up. This is why women should be a little more picky before committing to a child with a man they've only just met. Looks like you'll need to accept being on your own with this one.

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