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Molestation order for grandparent

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user1499775533 · 17/08/2018 22:40

Hi all was wondering if anyone knows how to get a molestation order in place for controlling over bearing grandparent? To cut a long story short my exes mum took me to court for access alone with my daughter monthly at her house. I agreed and with cafcass recommendations it was recommended she visit with her dad but he did not attend court so the order more or less says it's for her alone even though for the past year he has been taking her on a weekday when he doesn't drink. After briefly getting back together i fell pregnant and had my daughter 6 weeks ago. He made it clear from the start he didn't want to be involved and told me to get rid but i didn't and carried on. He isn't on the birth certificate and doesn't want to be he said. His mum emailed me 2 days ago asking when she can see her new granddaughter bearing in mind shed never emailed during my pregnancy to see how I was. I told her I'm more than willing to meet her once a month with my other daughter but she hasn't replied as i know she doesn't want me there and wants to get my baby alone. In the past all her letters and threats really made me emotionally drained and I'm sure she enjoyed doing it. I can't go through with it again. My health visitor has suggested a molestation order but not sure how to get this. It's not contact she's looking for as she was offered reasonable amounts with my first daughter, it's control and some kind of parental rights she thinks she has. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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RayneDance · 22/08/2018 10:52

Wow how did she get granted contact in first place! We are always told this never happens!!

Collaborate · 22/08/2018 11:13

We are always told this never happens!!

Who is "we" and who tells you that?

user1499775533 · 22/08/2018 12:43

I agreed to the contact being at her house with my ex. Was a consenting order and that's why permission was granted because me and my ex agreed. My daughter was 18 months old at the time. I was informed that she wouldn't of got this otherwise because of my daughters age and she was only seeing her at my home monthly prior. Cafcass recommendations stated an order shouldn't be made but it was. It was a mistake on my part but i didn't want to spite my daughter but in the long run I think it's causing more emotional damage to her and I won't allow that to happen again. If I don't start it then nothing can come of it. We are never going to get on because I refuse to be controlled or bullied by her again.

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