Do I have to tell my ex the hotel name?

[Guitarlady]

My ex is kicking off because I'm on the isle of Wight with our 6 year old on MY week to have her. He is insisting on knowing the name of the hotel. There are no court orders in place, we have a private arrangement. As there are DV issues from the past I'm scared he will show up and ruin my break.

Legally do I have to tell him where I am? He knows I'm on the IoW but I'm not abroad and still within the UK.

No, you have every right to take your daughter where you choose.

You would only need to tell him if a court order said so.

No. There is no court order or prohibited steps order. You’re allowed to take your child on holiday within the U.K. without permission from the other parent. Ignore him.

You definitely don't have to tell him but it's also not a huge place, possibly worth informing the hotel reception or even local police, via a non emergency number of course, of the situation if you really think it's a possibility he may come to you.

To OP

If Ex arrives at hotel they should not give him your room number until they have spoken to you first. That would give you time to call police/hotel security. However, make sure door is locked at all times in case he does get past the reception. Maybe ask hotel for a rubber doorstop as extra security?

Have a mobile to hand at all times.

It's not a huge place but surely too many hotels for him to find you unless he knows what part you're in? I would block his number and enjoy your break. That's what I do to my ex as he has form for sending messages superficially about contact with DD but designed to upset me on holiday/birthday/ our old wedding anniversary *delete where applicable. Did it this year but now I am just 🙄.

Be aware though that you can’t have it both ways. Don’t tell him where you are with your DD, but you then cannot demand he tells you where he’s taking her during his contact time.

I spoke to the hotel last night and they confirmed they wouldn't let anyone know I'm here. People have my mobile anyway!

I don't ever ask him where he's taking DD and to be fair, if we were out of the country he'd have hotel name and flight details! He has had 10 weeks notice that I had booked a weeks holiday from work and sent me a rather shitty text saying he refused me permission to take her abroad (Not that I was planning to anyway as I don't have a passport!)

This is the third short break I've taken her on and he didn't get like this when we spent a few nights in other parts of the UK on a mini-break.