Childs welfare

[Bailey534]

I have been separated from my 5yr old daughters dad for a couple of years.Our relationship was always rocky.My daughter does not want to sleep over at his or his new partners house.When she goes to stay she cries uncontrollably to come home.Her dad has very extreme parental views and demands that my new partner(we are planning to get married) is not left alone with our daughter.My daughter loves my new partner and has no issues at all with him, and I have total trust in him.The problem my daughters dad has said he has the right to come and take her from me any time he wants to.Is this right can he do that.
Any advice please I am desperate and worried sick.

See a solicitor and get countact hours in writing with a legal clause in that the police can intervene should he keep your dc.
He has fuck all say in whether your dc can be around your dp.
Same as you can't tell him where dc has to sleep in his time.
See a solicitor tomorrow. File forms tomorrow or your mh will suffer which isn't good for your dc.
Your ex is a twat but guessing you already know that.

no, he cannot do that.
You need to see a solicitor.

Thanks for quick response.He seems to think that because his name is on the birth certificate that he can just turn up demand to take her and keep her for the weekend, and just let cry the whole time.

He has parental responsibility, so he has equal rights in relation to your child. If he came and took her, it would not be a criminal offence, but if the matter went to court, it would not be looked on favourably. Sounds like you need to get a clear agreement sorted, so do see a solicitor and consider mediation (as that is the most cost-effective way to begin with). Is there anything that can be done to encourage her gradually to sleep over at your ex's?
As for the partners thing, neither of you can dictate anything about that.
However, at the same time, I can see his frustration, especially if you are getting remarried and he feels he is not 'needed' anymore. I am not saying you're doing this at all but I have seen many mums try to cut the dad out of the kid's life when they remarry and simply take a young child's initial reluctance to go to the NRP overnight as the final word, rather than actually encouraging them to have a relationship with the other parent. Long-term, that's not great for the kids. Obv very different if he has a history of being abusive or similar.