Anyone taken their ex for emotional abuse

[samesh1tdifferentday]

Does anyone have any good sign posting for this please?

Hi OP what do you mean by taken?

As in mentioned in divorce papers? Hell yes, that's unreasonable behaviour!

No he had me for that it's about the child arrangements the children have suffered too I've had a breakdown now and am trying to get string to go to court.
He has stipulated EVERY arrangement since we split and I've been doing 50/50 for a few months but it's taken it's toll on all of us

He won't do set days each week alternates this is so bad for routine

My unreasonable behaviour was leaving

I did have an affair which was wrong so I think a lot of his angst about that has come back at me through the children.
I should add that he's already engaged and says he's moved on but judging by his behaviour he definitely hasn't

It is still not clear what you mean by "taking" him for emotional abuse. And you wanting a set routine for contact whilst he wants flexibility isn't necessarily emotional abuse. It depends on exactly what he is doing. For example, if he is threatening or intimidating you over the contact arrangements that would be emotional abuse.

If you are unhappy with the contact arrangements and cannot agree with him the only way forward is to take it to court. The courts will look at what is in your children's best interests. If there is emotional abuse the courts will take that into account and consider whether that should affect any order they make.

Clearly she's missed out taken to court.

Lots of emotional abuse to me past 2 years I've had a breakdown and yes I mean court and court will be got child arrangements but can I mention the abuse the children and I have been up against?

Of course you can mention it but get independent advice. As I say, simply disagreeing about contact is not emotional abuse. However, if he is threatening or intimidating you it is.

God no it's not agreeing it's that he has stipulated it from day 1, didn't even ask me if it suited or the children. He had twice tried to throw me out of the family home once when I told him of my breakdown.
He WONT communicate or respond to any messages regarding the children and took them on holiday without even telling me they were going.
The first day he got his new house with his girlfriend he simply rang me and said that's it I told you 50 50 when I got my house so they aren't coming home tonight, he's told them about my affair and now won't let me see them unless supervised of hours specified by him when who and where.
He's reported me to social services twice and none of their reports were escalated therefore he put a complaint into SS for not contacting me therefore they did call me needless to say STILL no concerns. Oh then the police were called too guess what No further action.
SS have now started a family support plan at the girls schools as they were worried about the emotional impact out miscommunication was having.i have been in counselling for 3 years now trying to deal with him simply dictating the children's every move. He's even told them they can leave their current school which I haven't agreed to.my 2 boys have also had to have educational psychologist and play therapy to help deal with the emotional impact of this divorce.
Oh and he sacked me from his company as director after running it for 14 years, have me a P45 and no income for a whole year post divorce after being a SAHM for 14 years. I had no food, no heating and when snowed in he told me to get my wellies on and walk to the shop to get them food.dispite m breakdown and being asked to be left alone for a few weeks he has since sent me £1000 worth of solicitors letters regarding how he will keep the children and take the home from me. I have no family in the county at all I'm single which often people say I'm jealous about but it's not that it's just he has a huge family support network around him and I don't so I have to do things differently to him.
The reason I haven't been to court yet is because I haven't been financially able or mentally strong enough. I am now contemplating doing this although the thought of dragging up the past 2 years cripples me. It's like reliving it again but I simply feel like I know it is of utmost importance the future of the children but I am certain I can't let this behaviour lie and think it is ok for him to treat the mother of his children this way EVEN if I did hurt him it's not the children's fault. He has never had a single complaint about my parenting over the 14 years that I stood by him..... hope this makes it clearer