I'd be very grateful for some advice as I cannot afford further legal advice.
Our consent order was sealed in August last year. The terms came in to effect in Jan this year (on sale of FMH)
We agrred a private arrangement for CM and it was included in the order. To be paid until each child is 19. Ex is a high earner (around £200k pa) and the amount we arrived at was based on the CMS website based on kids going to his 1-2 nights per week. However, he earns considerably more than their upper earnings limit so he does pay less than the minimum towards them.
We no longer have any contact whatsoever as he is very controlling and abusive. DD has no contact with him and DS has seen him on average once per week. Ex refuses to pay for anything whatsoever other than CM, will not buy clothes, give spends etc. I'm sure he is going to try to renage on the order by going to CM as he can then pay less than he is now.
My questions are:
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The order can be varied after 1 year. Is this from when it was sealed or came in to effect?
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If ex goes to CMS to pay maintenance do I then need to take him to court to apply for a variance to keep the existing terms? (Especially as the current order is to age 19)
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If i need to seek a variance to maintain our order, how do I go about this and is it something I can do myself?
Be grateful for any advice or experience with this. TIA