I have come to the conclusion that unfortunately our relationship is very probably over. He is not going to make it easy for me. I have a part time job that earns me £18k pa. I can make childcare work. We have been married for 8 years. It is his name on the mortgage only. We have 2 further properties on the same site as the marital home. One is mortgage free but in his name only. The other is mortgaged and also in his name only. We also have one further property mortgaged to the hilt in my maiden name in Scotland (we live in England). He is self employed in a family business and although we have received regular amounts into our joint account from his business (both our wages go into a joint account) it will be very easy for him to hide income and assets. What do I do to make sure we are financially ok and he doesn’t make it impossible for me to be the primary career of the children. I would like to point out I’m not being grabby but I have given up a lot for him, including remortgaging my property to support his investments (kept no record obviously, idiot that I am) . Thank you very much.