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Mediation Request

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Gotgit · 10/07/2018 13:29

I was wondering if anybody could give me some advice.

I have requested mediation with my ex partner to sort out child contact arrangements and she has agreed to this with me directly however when I have contacted the mediator to set up an appointment they have said they are waiting to hear from her solicitor as to whether she has agreed or not.

I feel as though she will try to drag it out (and will likely blame her solicitor for the delay) so I was wondering how long is a reasonable time to give her before initiating court proceedings? In my head I was thinking 1 month but I'm not sure if that's an acceptable time scale. I really just want everything sorted as soon as it can be and we have already been to mediation on many occasions in the past which has not helped so I feel as though the legal route is inevitable at this point anyway.

Any advice would be appreciated.

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MrsBertBibby · 10/07/2018 13:35

A month is plenty of time.

motortroll · 10/07/2018 16:14

Our soliciting for always used to suggest 14 days for reply. It's not exactly complicated. Yes or no answer then you can start arranging it!

Gotgit · 10/07/2018 18:05

Thank you for the replies. She is saying to me privately that she agrees, but not officially. She has now said that she is waiting to see if she can get legal aid and that I'll have to be patient. In the meantime she is withholding contact every now and again so it's very frustrating.

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DPotter · 10/07/2018 18:10

Well I don't think Legal Aid is available for mediation for child care arrangements - happy to be corrected if this isn't the case. Leave it 14 days and then go for the legal route especially as mediation hasn't been successful as far.

MrsBertBibby · 10/07/2018 18:44

Yes legal aid is available for family nediation.

Gotgit · 10/07/2018 19:39

Does anybody know if it were to turn out that she was unable to get legal aid and as such could not afford mediation, then what would the process be from there?

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Notsurprisedatall · 11/07/2018 02:30

You would have to pay your fees she would have to pay hers.

When I got legal aid it covered us both, don't know if that is still the case.

A lot of paperwork etc to go through to get it, if she is waiting for a letter from DWP (benefits) that can take 5 weeks! They don't rush themselves.

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