Facebook pictures of my child

[Linzzi]

I need some advice, my ex and his new partner is putting on Facebook a lot of pic’s if my 8 year old daughter . I don’t mind a few but I feel it’s over the top, I asked my ex to tone it down, I don’t understand why he can’t understand I don’t want 100s of pics of my daughter on the Internet. There’s a few that she just has a tini bikini on. Am very uncomfortable about this and need some tips on how to deal with this please?

Not really sure wgat you can do.

Is a 100 pictures any worse than 20? Once your image is on the internet its there whether thats 20 or 100 pictures it makes no difference.
As for her in a bikini so what?

Sounds more like you hate the fact its your ex and his new partner putting up the puctures.
Block them on facebook then it wont bother you.

I wouldn't like that either but If he is her daddy then she is also his daughter, not just yours. I would continue to ask him not to post any more pics, thats the problem with social media, have you asked him why he wants to keep posting pics and would he understand why you feel concerned. Would it help to speak to his mum.

Would it help to speak to his mum.

Sorry but are you basically saying tell his mum on him

I have no issues with my ex. If it was that I would have just blocked them and I wouldn’t have needed any advice to do that.

his gf is actually very good with my daughter and we get along well, I asked for advise on how do deal with approaching the subject that I didn’t want my daughters life documented on Facebook without any falling out.

He is her father and allowed to post pictures of his child on facebook.
You can try an appeal to him and maybe say you will both folliw a blanket ban and niether of you can post any pictures at all.

However if he refuses then you will have to live with it. He is not breaking any law.

His mum doesn’t really use fb but i was going to speak to his dad about it. He usually sees my point of view.
I know we are equal parents.i don’t post her life on Facebook when with me, I feel he should respect that I am not comfortable with it. My mums is a social worker that deals with all sorts and it’s just freaked me out. I have always been anxious with this sort of thing, both of them are great with our daughter and we get along great.

I have no problem with them building family pictures. They are important but why do they need to be all over Facebook?

I am not asking him not to post pics. Just not her whole life every couple of days.

Maybe he is just being a proud dad, how old is dd. Do you think he understands how f.b. works.

Some people post pictures of every aspect of their life. It does not make them bad people or wrong.

I dont really understand your thinking.
You are ok with a few pictures but you want to limit them because fb freaks you out?
If it bothers you so much then surely it should be no pictures at all.

Speak to him about your concerns but be prepared for him disagreeing with you.

I know we are equal parents.i don’t post her life on Facebook when with me, I feel he should respect that I am not comfortable with it.

Does this hold true the other way?

There'll be no legal grounds to stop this; so you'd need to talk to him and see if you can find a compromise. If you can't, you may be better to unfollow him so that you don't see all the posts - that will stop you getting upset by them; although doesn't stop the problem. It's definitely worth talking to him first though. Hopefully you'll have some evidence of where you've adjusted things for him and he'll reciprocate.

I think stopping him posting at all is going to be difficult.

Maybe the first step is to say to him that you are concerned about safety for your daughter with everything you hear these days and whilst you can understand him wanting to post, you would prefer if he could alter his privacy settings so the pictures of your daughter can only be seen by friends and not possibly fall into the wrong hands.

That may be the best way to start and then bring in cutting down later. No dad will like the idea of pictures of his daughter falling into nefarious hands and he may just not have thought about it.