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Break up and house selling. Help!

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Twinkletoes85 · 07/07/2018 18:26

Over a year ago my ex and I split. I stayed in the home we own as I can afford to pay the mortgage and bills comfortably and he can’t (plus I bought and paid for everything in the house from furniture to cutlery.) He is in a new relationship and engaged, I’m also in a new relationship and my partner now lives with me. He currently doesn’t pay toward the mortgage of the house as I didn’t know legally what impact that would have. My ex partner also doesn’t pay towards the mortgage and says I am stopping him from doing it. I refunded the payment he had made for bills the month we split up and said for fairness sake I am happy to pay. There’s nothing stopping him from continuing to make payments into the mortgage account. We have agreed to sell the house and it’s now on the market, me and my partner are looking for another house and I have agreed for give my ex half the equity.

My ex still has some things here which I keep in the loft and if he asks for access to them I get them down and leave for him to come collect what he needs. I rarely say no unless he only gives me a couple of hours notice and it’s not really feasible for me to leave.

The issue is he is really not over moving out of the house, he doesn’t like my being with someone else and just makes things difficult. I have now seen on social media that his fiancée has been looking into cohabiting law and has approached a solicitor for a letter.

I don’t understand why they are making issues now this is almost over. I don’t feel I have been unreasonable given the circumstances (I know for a fact if it was the other way round he would not have been as amenable ).

I don’t know what to do and how to handle all this anymore. I really don’t want this to start dragging out and getting nasty.

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itsbritneybiatch · 07/07/2018 18:56

Go and see a local solicitor for a free consultation.

They can advise you on your position and if f you need them you will have have had an hour or so to discuss how they can help and if they can.

I decent one will tell you if you need them.

I went to see one over similar and family law related problems and they advised me I didn't need them right then but advised me the best course of action to take.

Should I need them in the future and I possibly will, I will be using them.

The advice they gave was invaluable and helped me immensely.

I honestly can't stress how much I think you should do this.

It will give you a clear picture of what may or is likely to happen legally and where you stand.

Good luck. Hope it works out.

itsbritneybiatch · 07/07/2018 18:57

take a list of questions also. X

Twinkletoes85 · 07/07/2018 19:06

Thank you. I went to see a solicitor at the end of last year as he requested I put some things legally in writing. She was very much on my side at that point and wrote him a letter explaining why I was in the house and that I was open and happy to sell the property for a 50/50 equity split. He just didn’t like what she put it the letter. He then dissapeared on me for months so it didn’t go on the market. When he reappeared he demanded it go on sale so I complied. I’ve done everything he wants me to do.

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itsbritneybiatch · 07/07/2018 20:27

Is it worth trying to buy him out?

For now then re sell again after six months? You can't sell for six months after buying.

Literally just to get shot of him?

itsbritneybiatch · 07/07/2018 20:29

To cheer you up though if you like shoes. Kurt Geiger has a massive amazing sale on!!

Twinkletoes85 · 07/07/2018 21:05

I offered before but he said I didn’t offer enough Confused

Oh I do like kurt Geiger and I need some new shoes!

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itsbritneybiatch · 07/07/2018 22:54

Just be aware that when you do sell you have to both agree to the sale.

I've been through this recently and he has to agree to the price.

If he hangs out for more and won't agree to a sale it will end up going to court.

I agreed to whatever he wanted as I wanted shot.

Once it's gone it's gone.

It depends on how much of a profit he and you want to gain.

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