ex stopped contact

[dannidea]

Hi everyone I'm looking for some advice. My 5 yr old daughter lives with her dad and he's recently put her in play therapy without consulting me. I don't agree with her being in therapy anyway but he's said the therapist advised him not to allow contact until she has finished all her sessions.
My ex already makes things difficult when i ask for contact and lies about things to make me seem like the bad guy.
Is there anything i can do to resolve this? Talking to him doesn't do any good and I've already got an appointment for mediation in a few weeks but I don't think he'll agree to it.

Lies about what? If your daughter is in therapy then the therapist must think there is reason to be.

Sounds like you've already started the process by contacting a mediator.

Is there a court order already in place for the child to live with the father? And is there provision for you to spend time with her?

You need to get this into court if mediation gets you nowhere.

He shouldn't be putting her in therapy without your consent, or a Court order.

Are you in the UK and do you have parental responsibility? If so you should be involved with medical matters and decisions. Sadly professionals, even when they know that the second parent is around but hasnt been consulted, choose to proceed anyway.

That is of course assuming that there are no overriding court orders about this child.

Why are you taking his word that's what the therapist said? You need to be speaking to the therapist yourself imo. And seeing a solicitor.

Yes we have a court order for her to live with him and says we discuss my contact amongst each other.

And he's lied about me breaching the order, threatening him and says he told me about the play therapy when he didn't.
And the only issue she has is separation anxiety from her not seeing me enough. I don't think a 5 yr old should have therapy apart from a last resort.

Therapy isn’t the issue here, clearly it’s needed if she’s getting it.

You need to seek legal advice and see about resuming contact. But don’t mention therapy because it won’t look good.

Well you need to speak to the therapist as both parents need to give consent.

I messaged the therapist this morning as well to see if she actually tells him these things. And yes i have parental responsibility.

Keep a diary is my advice. Log all calls /texts /conversations. He is denying his dd time with her dm. It's not your time with her but what she needs and imo he isn't adhering to that.

If he is preventing your contact, then it may well be wise to return to court sooner rather than later in order to have your contact specified instead of by agreement between the two of you.