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Waiting for a court date but still worried..

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TQBD · 17/06/2018 13:50

Following on from my previous posts - both children have remained with us and there has been no direct contact between the parents. Parent refusing contact has blocked now resident parent on mobile after saying they do not want further contact with children.

There has been direct contact between parent refusing contact and the children - where offers of visits have been made etc.

Eldest child is happy to go and spend time with parent, but wants reassurance they will not be forced to remain there and will be returned after contact.

Youngest is very mixed up and obviously wants to see parent but reluctant to see parents partner.

We’ve found messages on youngest’s phone saying they are ‘not allowed’ to see parent/parents family until court is concluded. Court date not set yet, so parent not aware application has been made.

Also messages advising they will be collected to go and visit etc and if parent has a problem ‘it will be sorted’ from other family members.

Lots of emotional messages and bad mouthing of parent children have chosen to live with sent directly to children.

Children made statement to police following reports of the threats/text message abuse confirming domestic violence as reason they refuse to return to previously resident parent.

I’m incredibly anxious and worried that this will be seen as denial of contact - even though no direct request has been made to make arrangements between parents and that this will go against us at court.

Desperate to have this resolved to give the children some safety and security but very conscious of the horror stories where things don’t always go to plan in court and fear children being returned to emotionally abusive situation/domestic violence.

Can anyone reassure or offer advice before we seek legal advice and chase court date on Monday.

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TQBD · 18/06/2018 19:16

Felt I should add; no one has prevented children visiting other parent

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Sunshineintheclouds · 18/06/2018 19:22

Not seen your previous posts.
How old are the children?

Sunshineintheclouds · 18/06/2018 19:24

Are you a parent? Do you have PR?

If you do then you have every right to keep the children if you believe they are being subject to abuse.

TQBD · 19/06/2018 08:51

High school age.

Yes, both parents have PR.

I’m concerned that the application made to court where we will ask to formalise the living arrangements - children with us rather than with the other parent - and regular contact will be impacted by the potential perception that contact has been denied, when the reality is, it’s not been requested and no contact has been made between parents since parent refused contact.

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Sunshineintheclouds · 19/06/2018 09:50

High school age they will be asked where they want to live and about contact.
However if you believe they are being abused you need to report to appropriate professionals.
But don't worry the children at that age will be listen to Smile

TQBD · 19/06/2018 15:38

School have been spoken to, and the children both disclosed domestic violence to the police when we reported the abusive messages.

Thank you, you’ve really reassured me

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