Can ex talk to the solicitor I have spoken to?

[PippilottaLongstocking]

I recently had to talk to a solicitor regarding threatening messages my ex sent me. It was just a free half hour appointment (to get a professional opinion and also have a record of the incident) and not an ongoing thing. My ex has now said he thinks he should also talk to her ‘to give his side of things’

Is this something that people do? Is he allowed to talk to her? Or should he be getting his own solicitor? I can’t afford to see the solicitor again.

No! He can't instruct her, and she has no need to speak to him on your behalf as she is not currently instructed by you.

If you're worried, call the firm, explain what he has said and make it clear you don't wish them to speak to him.

mrsbert thank you! I just wanted to be reassured that I was right in thinking he should not do it!

Another question to anyone who can answer - I have requested that my ex do not contact me until we have both spoken to the mediator and come to an agreement regarding child contact, he keeps texting me anyway. In the eyes of the law does this count as harassment or do I not have the right to ask him not to contact me?

Depends on what he is texting. If it is abusive, offensive or threatening it is harassment.

You can ask him not to contact you but he is not necessarily committing an offence if he contacts you anyway. If the problem is simply that his texts are annoying he is probably not committing any offence.

Your best approach would probably be to block his texts. Most mobile phones allow you to block texts from a particular sender.

Thanks prh I think I’m just going to keep repeating that I don’t want him to contact me until I’ve spoken to the mediator and we’ve come to an agreement, hopefully he’ll understand eventually!