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How to approach my divorce?

8 replies

Anothernamechanger1 · 14/06/2018 14:33

So now at 2 years separation and I want to apply for the divorce. Have had no contact with ex at all. Don’t know his address but have his number. I can’t afford a solicitor so I will be doing this myself apart from the consent order.

We are not financially tied at all, I live in rented, which he lived in for a short time but he’s not on the agreement, just me. We have no kids together thankfully. I will be getting a clean break put in but I found out I have to pay the solicitor to do this for me. They can’t tell me a price. I know that’s why this is. Just that it at least would be a couple of hours work so £500 + vat, providing he doesn’t argue/cause any problems.

So do I text him? Just say... so I’m applying for divorce can I have your address? He will either say fine and just sign and it’s done by xmas or he will refuse to divorce, in which case I will have to wait another 3 years...

Any advice/tips before I start the process??

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Anothernamechanger1 · 14/06/2018 18:39

Evening bump?

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5Makes9 · 14/06/2018 18:51

Why are you separating? Can’t you go for unreasonable behaviour?

Anothernamechanger1 · 14/06/2018 19:01

We are 2 years of already separated.

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PurpleWithRed · 14/06/2018 19:07

I’d start with asking him for his address, wouldn’t say why in particular. Surely he won’t object, he can hardly deny being separated from you for 2 years.

Anothernamechanger1 · 14/06/2018 19:16

I have no idea... I guess I’m worried about wasting the money of the court cost if he won’t sign but I’m guessing I can’t complete the form without his address anyway.

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Orlandobound · 14/06/2018 19:59

I would just be open with him

"As you are aware we have been separated for two years now, are you in agreement it is time for a divorce? I am willing to apply for the application, i will need your address if so please."

You will know where you stand then, and if you will be wasting time, effort and money.

Anothernamechanger1 · 14/06/2018 20:31

It’s going to open such a can of worms, due to family. I just want to be completely rid of him now. He’s vile, turned my family against me!

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Orlandobound · 14/06/2018 20:46

I'm sorry to hear that, but you're going to have to bite the bullet if you really want this.

Just be factual, no emotion and no opinions etc just civil and professional.

If you're family can ditch you over a man then he must be acting unreasonable, reason for divorce right there.

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