Fleeing Domestic Violence - Fresh Start Abroad

[chedda88]

Hello,

Maybe my head is all over the place. I was severely assaulted by my husband a few days ago. This isn't the first time but it is by far the worst. It is so bad that my bedroom where the assault happened looks like a crime scene. Blood all over the walls and windows. Police have told me not to clean my bedroom just yet for evidence purposes.
I have an 8 week old and a 3 year old. I am recovering from a c section. I just bought a brand new house with my husband earlier this year. My husband is on bail conditions and cannot contact me. I am so done with the marriage. I can't believe I was begging for my life when he assaulted me. I have pressed charges. Waiting to hear back from CPS.

Now I want to take my kids and up and leave. I have family in Canada and U.S. who both have said I should take my kids and come stay with them. I have visited US on many occasions and have lived there for 1 year.
I need to get away. I love England but I need to get away. I am currently on maternity leave and I am a professional and I practice in my profession.

My plan was 1. Present myself at the US border and seek refuge. I mean one look at my face and the bruises to my face I should receive support.

Or 2. Enter as a tourist then seek help from social services.

I would never get permission from my husband because he is on bail anyway and I can't talk to him. Not that i would anyway.
But I don't want to be guilty of child abduction.
My 3 year old son actually said to my mother today "Daddy was being stupid to mummy. He made her lip red. The officer came to see if mummy is ok". My son is 3 and has never said anything like that. I don't want this life for my kids.

Legally I don’t think you can. Not with The Hague convention.

In the US they are currently taking children away from anyone seeking asylum. It’s horrific.

I’m sorry you are dealing with this.

I think legally you can move anywhere in the UK though. I’m sure someone will know if I’m wrong.

Do. Not. Do. That. Doesn't matter the circumstances of abuse. You cannot just up and leave the country with your children. Doesn't work like that and you can't just present yourself to Canada or the US and expect to be able to live there. I'm Canadian but immigrated to UK. Without an employer sponsored move, then it's lots of money and lots and lots of paperwork, that's just for a single person, throw kids into the mix with a father who is against the move (most likely) then it gets majorly complicated. You are breaking the law by leaving the UK with your children. Do not even entertain this idea. Move to another part of the uk if you need a quick new start while you decide what you want for your future. Good luck.

Sorry to hear what you have been going through.

Please take proper advice before you make any move.

You won't be able to get into America like you are suggesting. They don't just let people in, you have to get a visa, etc, etc

You can't go abroad behind your husband's back with the kids. You can move within the UK though. You should do that first then take some time to consider your options.