Unreasonable behaviour divorce petition

[Rebecca75]

I've got to write the statement of unreasonable behaviour. This feels a red rag to a bull as oh will go ballistic when he reads the petition if I have to write all the reasons I want to divorce him.
Any advice? What is the minimal amount of info needed?
I'm divorcing him as I don't love him, am mightily fucked off after years of gaslighting, because of his red hot, occasionally violent temper, total lack of ability to say sorry, for making everything my fault regardless.
Tia

If you have a solicitor, take their advice. If not, try to agree the statement. You need enough to convince the judge that the relationship has broken down irretrievably

Sorry - that should say "try to agree the statement with your ex".

My husband has failed to support me emotionally for some years. He is at times violently verbally aggressive toward me and ignores that he has caused me upset and emotional harm by never apologising for this behaviour. This causes me to feel unloved as well as unsupported.

For example this happened when (fill in an example). . . .. This behaviour of his happens every (fill in how often in days, weeks etc).

I feel that I am constantly treading on eggshells in case he loses his temper with me. I cannot continue to live with my husband or remain married to him because his behaviour is harming my emotional and physical wellbeing.

Forgot - I no longer love my husband or wish to have an emotional attachment with him because of his behaviour.

Jonbb - you have put some really great things down, thank you.

I can't sit down with my husband and talk about anything amicably - never have been able to - unless the outcome is in his favour (one of the many reasons why our relationship has broken down).

Also he is away all week, back on sunday evening (enjoying the p&q!!) and I want to get the ball rolling asap. I hadn't realised that the statement was such a big deal and had to be so factual. I just can't believe that in 2018 our law is so archaic!

You can put what you want in reality. I.E he left his socks on the floor instead of putting them in the washing basket.
It really makes no difference to a judge why your marriage has broken down.
Make it up. Say you were annoyed he insisted he was a unicorn at weekends!
I’m trying to be light hearted but you say why this marriage isn’t working for you.
He then has 3 choices.
He agrees
He does not agree but will not contest.
He contests.
Contesting will cost him many thousands of pounds and no family solicitor would advise him to do this.
HTH

If you put trivial reasons he may be able to successfully contest the divorce. Some people have done so - see, for example, the case of Tini Owens vs Hugh Owens last year. Whilst a solicitor is likely to advise him not to contest, he can do so if he wants. So it is best to go with allegations that are strong enough to guarantee success.

I just can't believe that in 2018 our law is so archaic

In what way do you think our law is archaic?

One reason he can’t or won’t contest is enough. But I guarantee he will not contest unless he has more money than sense.

I'm not concerned about him contesting, hee won't I'm sure. However divorce and separation are so stressful and hurtful that to then have to put matters in black and white and being up old wounds again is ridiculous!

Any law that gives one partner the ability to insist that the other remains married to them, against their will, is archaic.

Totally!