Custody

[Rjay02]

Hi everyone I'm new to this and am after some help and advice anything would be helpful right now I honestly have no clue what to do. My ex partner has applied for custody since me and my son moved 200 miles he still has contact every other weekend, he has said due to my medical conditions it should be questioned if I can meet my child's basic needs, he said I haven't put my child's best interests first by moving and he's saying I've exposed my son to domestic abuse, now cafcass have taken things I said in the appointment and changed a few things made a few lies not just about my comments but about my son's teachers comments, cafcass are completely siding with him anyone would think they worked for my ex! Bit of back ground my current partner used to be a complete arse we split up for a few months 2 years ago as he was paranoid about everything not just me work, family absolutely everything and I told him until he got help and sorted his life out then he had to stay out of our lives and he went to the GP had an assessment at the hospital and they said his behaviour was due to previous cocaine use, he was taking anti depressants for a while then stopped them, since that time we got back together and he's been fine a different person to 2 years prior, now my ex and cafcass are saying they need medical proof that he's fit to be around a 6 year old?!?. Now my poor 6 year old has been made aware of these proceedings by his dad which has had an effect on him he's become anxious and angry which has been noticed at school as well, he's constantly worried about court a word a 6 year old shouldn't even know he says he thinks something bad is going to happen. My son has always lived with me now cafcass are saying all tho they haven't made a final recommendation that my son would be safer with his dad and I'm broken I don't know what to do I do everything I can for my child I always have and id never put him at risk ever but now I really don't know what to do or what is going to happen they have set a final hearing in July. I've called several solicitors and barristers none of which can give me advice without waiting a week for an appointment and paying between £110 - £280 Which I will be doing but am hoping someone can give me any kind of advice I'm at a complete loss right now it feels I have the whole world against me and some stranger that has clearly sided with dad is potentially in charge of our future 💔😢

As an outsider I can see why CAFCASS are concerned if you moved miles away to live with a coke addict! However if the court accepts he poses no threat then I'm sure he will continue to live with you,

If you had to split up with your partner to keep your son, would you? What about moving back to nearer your ex so that you could share care more equally?

Not a coke addict

I would do anything but again he's emotional abusing my child and apparently that's fine.

Why did you move 200 miles away?

Do you want to keep residency of your child?

If so, you need to break up with the unsuitable partner and live on your own with your son.

That’s the bottom line. There is no point in fighting cafcass.

*Do you want to keep residency of your child?

If so, you need to break up with the unsuitable partner and live on your own with your son.

That’s the bottom line. There is no point in fighting cafcass.*

This is the only option.
If they have decided that your boyfriend is a problem there will be no changing their mind, you need to play their game and put your son first.
Move into your own house with your son away from the boyfriend and focus on working with cafcas by against them.

They asked for a letter from his GP to state he was fit to be around a child which I now have. I moved for a fresh start to many awful memories I didn't want to face daily.