Really need some advice for my situation at the moment.
My DS is 12 weeks old. His father blocked me from contact and refused to contact me throughout pregnancy etc. I finally managed to somehow contact him through difficulty when DS was 6 weeks old. I put al hatred to the back of my mind and allowed him unlimited access under our own roof and with me being there. Within 3 days this caused hell and he was very nasty etc. Due to this factor we came to an agreement of 4 hours access twice a week where sons father takes our son to his house ( his mother’s house) with the agreement that his mum be there for the first few times as he openly admitted to me he has never been around a baby and was uncomfortable. I felt extremely bullied into him eventually taking DS without his mother being there , baring in mind this was only the 3rd4th time he had access taking him away on his own.
He turned up on Wednesday under the influence of cannabis and was extremely verbally abusive. Demanding that I would from now on need to drop and pick up DS fro him for his access hours as he can’t afford it. He took DS of me and at this point I was extremely distressed and concerned for my son . I took him back off him and closed the door. Immediately phoned my health visitor and made an emergency appointment with a lawyer .
The lawyer has now written him a letter stating that due to the circumstances he turned up to take DS that access has now been stopped .
I’m positive that his mum will push him to take me through court now for access and I am so distressed. I have not once denied him access, I have only asked for him to agree with me on certain things that seem reasonable as our baby boy is so very young and has only just started to meet his father.
I really need advice on what you think may happen now.
I know I may seem drastic to do this but for his father ( who I was not in a relation ship with, was a one night stand) to consider taking our child out in th car while under the influence of drugs and having an abusive and demanding manner to me while doing a handover seems to me to be unacceptable.
I am planning to move very soon to be near family for support ( 100 miles away).
I must mention that he was absent to sign DS’s birth certificate.
I really have no clue where to go from here. Should I contact a mediation centre and offer his father supervised access at a contact centre and for it to gradually be built up? I want him to have a relationship with his son but his demands are unreasonable considering the babies age and relationsship with him. He is also demanding overnight access.
What will happen when I move and if he was apply to court what would a judge do ?
I’m 22 and a student nurse, just feel as though my world is crumbling because I have done the right thing by my son for forcing his father into our life’s. DS is BF through night.