I have 2 children aged 11 and 7, I divorced their father quite some time ago, he lives over 300 miles away and we both agreed that he would see the children on skype every 2 weeks, and have them over school holidays and every other christmas so he doesnt miss out on them growing up, the thing is I am having to beg my children to talk to him, the arrangement was set up for just him, but now his mother always invites herself and when she does he doesnt speak to the children he just sits there staring and then has a go at me for the children not talking, I have been as calm as I can possibly be with him and always tried to consider his feelings, I have told him if he actually spoke to them they will answer. Now the children dont want to speak to their grandma and just want to speak to their dad, and have her involved once a month, I tried to explain this to him as the children get quite distressed as every time they ask just to speak to him she kicks off at the children which makes them upset and angry, she also likes to use emotional blackmail threatening not to come up and collect them for their holiday, as I dont drive and also disabled I cant afford train fares nore manage to get on to the train. Also to point out that their father refused to have anything to do with them for the first 18 months of the divorce but I believe every child should have their father in their lives and got access sorted for him, so my question is am I being unreasonable by asking only the father to skype every 2 weeks and have his mother involved once a month but continue letting the children go down for visits