Cms currently based on a certain amount of. Nights but dc haven't wanted to go that much and haven't, what do I do

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So ex pays based on them staying there every other weekend Fri to Sunday.. So 52 nights per year.. Occasionally a week in summer.
This went through cms in October last yr.. Since Nov dc haven't gone that amount.. At least 4 of those weekends they're meant to they haven't gone at all.. Some only one night and between now and this October their dad is going on holiday for three more of ' their' weekends m without them..
Am I supposed to notify them. When I said to ex he said we'll the odd change don't matter. But it's probably total of 14 of them nights they haven't gone and the there is his holidays.. And one weekend that dc have a party to go to....

Either way hell get shitty with me, but he's always doing what he can to avoid paying. I. E cash in hand work, said we'll I'll have another dc with my partner that will 'screw you over'
I don't 'need' the money but it's nice to beale to have it for the nicer things for dc.

You need to notify them of a change in circumstances.

You can check on the calculator. It's worked out in quite wide bands, so double check if the nights he hadn't had them mean it goes into a lower band or not.

Also, keep a diary of the dates as they will want that, text messages etc. This will avoid, as much as possible, a he said/she said situation.

If he had another child it would reduce by 15%... Id be inclined to say my DC would love another sibling! Take the high road, and confuse him!

I would work on why the kids don't want to go, depending on ages, and reasons, as it's important they do have a good relationship with him.

52 nights a year gives a one-seventh discount.

Yeah it's 52 on paper but has been much less.. Would be approx 35
I didnt realise it gets reduced if he a no child. My current dp pays full amount and my DS is living with us and we have a dc together.. Not that he'll change it as he has no issues in what he pays but genuinely didn't realise that

I had this years ago with ex. He had a court order stating eow/half the school holidays which he sent to the CSA as it was then.

He rarely had her that often. 1 night eow as he worked saturdays, never had her half the holidays as he worked (I did too but obviously expensive holiday childcare/juggling annual leave etc was my problem), some weekends he didn't bother. Went about 3 months seeing her only twice.

I contacted the CSA who wrote to him and told him payments would increase. He waved court order at them and said 'I am responsible for dd this amount of time as ORDERED BY COURT'. CSA told me the only way to resolve it was for me to take him back to court and get the contact order amended or to force him to have her the.court ordered time.

I didn't bother.

Last year dd (now 13) decided she didn't want to see him anymore. He isn't working (and hasnt for about 9 years) and because he had the court order should be paying £5 a week I think it is out of his benefits. I really can't be arsed. He is a nobber. Dd knows he is a nobber. He knows he is a nobber.

If it is a lot of money and important to you then try and ring the CMS. But don't let it burn your head out for a few quid that doesn't matter much.

We have no court order just our own agreement x
Your ex sounds a twat like mine lol

Yes he is. An absolute waste of skin.

I was NC with him from dd being 3. And after another spectacular cock up by the CSA who gave him my new address despite being told in writing it was court ordered he shouldn't have it I decided to stop letting him invade my brain space.

His life's mission was to annoy/upset me. So I decided to stop letting him.

Now dd is NC with him too. His own fault and his loss.