DH made redundant child maintenance

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Hi

My Dh was given notice of redundancy today.

He has one of his dc full time and the other one lives with their mother and due to location he only sees him in the holidays.

He currently pays his ex wife towards the upkeep of his dc, he doesn't receive money for the dc that lives with us
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The redundancy package he has isn't great, so he is going to suggest to her that one cancels the other out and he cease payments.

Does anyone have any experience of this? Thanks

Do the children have the same mother, or are you talking about 2 separate arrangements?

That would depend on the arrangements, but technically they should each be paying the other maintenance as a proportion of their income.

Assuming both children are from same Mum.

What contact does Mum have with dc that lives with him?

Yes both are from the same Mum. They are supposed to be splitting the holidays as dc currently have slightly different term times, however we have the other dc more than she has the child that lives with us. They have grown apart and he has chosen not to see her as often (he is now 15).

The maintenance has been one way she hasn't paid anything for child that lives with us.

It’s a % of income and he doesn’t now have an income so stops paying.

By paying ex for the child that lives with her and not getting anything for the one that lives with you, the one that lives with you is missing out.

That’s not okay. Why isn’t she paying? Does she work?

When he gets another job it shouldn’t be only him paying. That’s daft.

She has basically point blank refused to pay. It's been a bit of an ongoing nightmare. Will look into it thanks.

Why isnt she paying?

He wont have to pay any with no income coming in.

If he's lost his income, now is a good time to put a stop to the ridiculous situation of him paying and her not. It gives you both the chance to legitimately re-evaluate the payment schedule.

I think then your dh should should point blank refuse to pay especially now he has no income.

Furthermore put in a claim for maintenance for the child that lives with you.

She has been taking the piss!

I'm pretty sure that neither should pay the other in this case

All credit that he is and I'd hate for the non resident child to go without but his mother is taking the pee and not setting a good hardworking example.

I'd use this opportunity to take legal advice and cease payments

Good luck to you all

As far as I know you cannot just stop pahying so if your income reduces you then make an application to pay less and break the law if you stop paying less before it is ordered the payments be reduced unless they can agree a lower sum between them.